Imagining An End to Sexual Shame (and an Invite to a Twitter Party)

Remember when your daydreams involved unicorns, exotic vacations and working as a pop DJ in the mountains of India? (Er, maybe that was just me.) Nowadays I fantasize about more important things, like seeing an end to sexual shame.

Imagine what puberty alone would be like if we actually liked and respected our bodies and sexuality beforehand? Can you even visualize it? I’m no psychic, but I can almost guarantee that it would be less of a dizzying world-flip. It might even be empowering.

Considering the demeaning societal messages and long-held myths surrounding female sexuality, I don’t think it’s any coincidence that girls are at such high risk for depression, anxiety, heightened stress and eating disorders from adolescence on. If only they all saw the glory in their bodies, in their capacity for pleasure, in their innate sexuality—no matter what its specifics. #WhatAWonderfulWorldItWouldBe

Here’s what I think (and lots of research suggests) an end to sexual shame would bring:

♥ Less depression, anxiety and stress

♥ Fewer battles with disordered eating

♥ Happier, healthy intimate relationships

♥ Fewer sexual health problems

♥ Women having more gratifying, orgasmic sex

♥ Less beating oneself up for being “too” or “not enough” anything

♥ A heck of a lot more joyful, authentic living

So how do we get there? It starts in our own lives—making the decision to move forward, then taking the necessary steps to do so. Every effort to more fully embrace our sexuality is a worthy one.

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To gab with me, Dr. Megan Fleming and the Artemis Films crew about this subject, play trivia hosted by the super groovy Jess Witkins and potentially win an awesome prize from Good Clean Love, hop onto Twitter between 7 & 8pm PST this Thursday, October 29. Search for the hashtag #WomenKickAss. Learn more more on the Facebook event page. I hope to see you there!

What steps have you taken to minimize shame around your sexuality? Will you be joining us on Thursday? I love hearing from you!