Swimming in Your own Sauce

Synopsis: we spend too much time in our heads, swimming in your own sauce.

So, think about this, and think about yourself. What things are you aware of thinking about yourself that get you caught in your own sauce, but that you feel all righteous about, because you’re “working on it?”

Except, you’re not.

In other words, how often are you stuck in your head, endlessly going over the same stupid stories, and therefore, doing the same stupid things?

My example person, were she wise, might consider experimenting with “no.” She might decide, say, for a month or a year, to say no when she means no. Not once or twice, but as a full blown experiment.

Now, when she does this, her inner voice is going to go nuts, and start screaming, “No on will like you if you are not a nice little girl!” She would need to acknowledge, then ignore, that voice.

After several months, she will discover that everyone still likes her (or the ones that dumped her were not worth keeping around) and she has not done things she didn’t want to do. Or better put, she has done the things she wanted to do.

Each of us has something we can experiment with.

If you get angry with your kids “for their own good,” spend 6 months stopping your mouth, quieting yourself, and then having a calm discussion.
If you think your partner is the one to blame for everything, have a breath, and invite your partner to talk about what’s really going on.
If you can’t move on from a toxic relationship, just move on for a month or six, and see what else emerges.

In other words, instead of swimming helplessly in your own sauce, do something geared toward doing your life differently.

Give it a bit of time, laugh at your head games, and see what switches.

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