When Breaking Bad Is Good
When Breaking Bad Is Good
No one intentionally searches for bad or hurtful situations, but for some, relationships can slip into a constant spin cycle of rinse and repeat. When people actually attract bad-boys, evil-divas, or self-absorbed jerks, it’s time to take a look in the mirror. The common denominator in all your relationships is you.
I love fairytales. The happily-ever-afters inspired my writing. Romance warms the heart, provides an escape, satisfies, and encourages hope. But expecting Prince Charming or Cinderella to gallop into your life may skew your perspective.
I searched for the fairytale, a happily-ever-after with the man of my dreams who would sweep me off my feet and carry me into the sunset… Well, not exactly, but you get the picture.
Of course, no one could survive on that pedestal. But the ideal made me vulnerable and led me straight into the arms of men who told me what I needed to hear … any guesses how that worked out for me? Like an innocent mouse in a maze, that’s how I rolled. Now, I may not be a genius, but I finally decided I had to be smarter than a rodent!
The one thing all my relationships had in common was me–the bully in my mirror longed for validation–a pattern that needed serious adjustment. Hollow words couldn’t heal my insecurity. When I changed my self-image, my relationships changed too.
No one is destined to repeat the same mistakes, but life evolves from the choices we make based on our past. Everyone has a unique story filled with memories. But sometimes breaking bad can be good. The key is to focus on the positive–the love and joy––and tuck the rest in a silent, secluded corner of your mind.
Do you have patterns that you rinse and repeat?
Casi
It’s not our past, our possessions, or our status that truly matters in life, but rather who we are and how we touch the lives of others.
Casi McLean
