Three Strikes And You’re Out of My Life

When I was a young girl, I remember going to Paw Sox games with my dad. This triple-A team associated with the Red Sox had the absolute best games. I remember being so excited to spend quality time with my dad (who was usually at work) and him explaining to me the rules of baseball. To this day, I don’t know a thing about baseball or any sports for that matter. Despite my dad being a college football coach, I know the bare bones. I know you get three strikes in baseball, I know the quarterback throws the ball in football, and I know that basketball has players such as Lebron James and Kobe Bryant.

Going to sporting events for me was not about the actual game. It was about the experience. It was about sitting with my dad for a couple hours in an environment he loved. It was about the amazing food, the screaming fans, and the atmosphere. I definitely didn’t go to watch and understand the game.

However, when it comes to the matters of the heart, I know more. I understand how the game is played, I understand the rules, and I definitely understand how the players handle themselves. And I have taken one rule from what my father taught me during a baseball game into my dating life.

"Three Strikes and You’re Out"... of My Life.

I always find myself saying things like “maybe he’ll change” or “maybe I’ll give him one more chance”. But, the 3 strikes rule forces me to realize the chances I've given and moreover, what I deserve.

When I’m deciding whether I’ll give a guy another chance- I always try to remember a quote my family uses a lot.

“Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me.”

What is this quote saying exactly? If you go back to this guy even though he has already showed you his true colors- you’re just ASKING for him to hurt you. You are not only allowing him to treat you disrespectfully but you’re being a pushover.

At that point, if you go back after three issues, you’re doing it to yourself.