Hi Gail, just for future reference, I'm not sure q*eer is an appropriate word to use as an umbrella term or to call someone else as a vague way to refer to someone who isn't straight. Their respective label is more appropriate, gay, lesbian, bi, etc. Anyon

I don’t usually use that word. May I ask where I used it that we are referring to?

I have nothing against the word but it feels like it belongs to the people it applies to, so I tend not to use it.