My boyfriend says he wishes I had a spine, a backbone. He said it to me last night and I just don't understand. What does this mean, lovely?

That’s not a very nice thing to say. To call someone spineless is calling them cowardly and ineffectual and weak. It’s even worse that he didn’t explain what he meant or why he said that. It could be that perhaps you do need to be braver or speak up for yourself more but he didn’t say that. That’s not constructive or helpful it’s just snide. I don’t like your boyfriend.