Not to start any flames wars or whatever it's called these days. But do you find it condescending when other writers talk about supporting "strong independent female characters" yet they write their female characters that are entirely co-dependent on if t

Yep.

A great deal of the ‘strong female character’ wave is complete bullshit.

It’s not enough to repeat buzzwords and catchphrases. It’s not enough to only create the same character type over and over again. It’s not enough to merely avoid the things that have gotten other writers called out on in the past.

You have to actually care, you have to actually listen, you have to actually pay attention.

Not everyone knows that, yet.