Should I Date a Guy Who is Broke?
I recently got a question from Marge who likes this guy but she’s concerned about his financials. “Gregg, he’s broke.”
My first response to dating a broke guy is an overwhelming no! In To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man”, I describe this guy as a wet kitten. Let me qualify this, though. If he is a young man who is studying hard in college and he has a future in his field with prospects, then OK, I get it. He might also be in between jobs for reasons that are not in his control. I get that too.
But if this guy has no motivation and no prospects for a job then lose his furry ass! You can tell by his history and how he goes about his everyday life. A lazy free loader can’t fake motivation for very long – he just can’t. And if your intuition questions his “financial drive”, then she is right – listen to her.
Look for these signs of a wet kitten:
He tends to watch a lot of TV and spends a lot of time laying on the couch;
He might be out of shape because of his laziness;
He has Xbox blisters on his fingers that just happen to match up with the controller;
His refrigerator (or his moms) is full of crap – no low fat yogurt in site;
His apartment is usually trashed because he is too lazy to clean;
He asks to borrow money in the first two weeks of knowing him;
Date? Movie and pizza split Dutch treat – if you’re lucky;
His couch seat imprint matches up directly to his butt;
His credit cards are maxed;
He hits the ATM every other day to withdraw ten bucks.
Don’t waste your time with this guy – You will regret it. Certain criteria are a given on both sides if you are a high-value person. Supporting yourself with just a little left over is one of my criteria. If a guy works hard, you will find he works hard at other aspects in his life as well. He has to – it makes sense. He will work hard at making the relationship work and he will work hard at meeting your needs.
Financials are huge and don’t let anyone talk you out of this! Life is tough enough without needing to support your 25- 35 year old boyfriend who hasn’t gone on an interview in four years. Sure, he may counter this with a sexy blue eyes and a magical tongue but those things ain’t paying the rent or buying a Barbados vacation anytime soon!
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