Follow Your Instincts & You Find Yourself
Whenever I read blogs about the closeness of a man and a woman, I question myself: is that really so? How and what would I feel if I did this or that?
As a man of 51, I have seen and experienced many things with women. My marriage and family life long behind, I have been looking around for the last 10 years, searching, exploring, discovering I visited places where you can find what you are looking for. And I realised: every man is different in his needs and interests.
So, ladies, please keep this in mind: if you like a man, this is no guarantee that he likes you as well. The same is true in reverse.
When I started exploring the world of bodily pleasure again (after being a faithful husband for many years), I knew I liked nice big breasts; firm breasts that show hard nipples when a woman is excited. I like to suck and bite a little, and gently stroke the skin surrounding the nipples with my warm fingertips. I like to stand behind a woman, holding her breasts from behind, and massage them gently while my cock swells and touches her butt to show her I am willing to have sex later.
I developed many phantasies based on this: undressing a nurse, a hotel maid, a waitress. Certainly a woman wearing any kind of uniform. And doing so, I realised: my phantasy is just as important as what my hands and my skin experience.
Follow Your Instincts & Desires
When I strolled the streets and visited the bars of the world, watching women, I smiled at them and studied their reaction to my smile. The professionals – I don’t like the word whores, because it downgrades some wonderful women who choose to sell their bodies out of sheer lust for sex; these women always smiled back seductively, often asking to be invited for a drink as the first step to a later pickup.
Many of them have wonderful smiles that touched me deep inside. But I realized, too, that their smiles can become tiresome when you get used to them, which is not a good thing, because a smile should be reserved for the ones we like.
Then I realised that there were women, not many, whom I can touch with my smile, my open smile that says: I love the world, I love my life, and I love you as the person you are right now. And they smiled back, suddenly opening their souls, which made my heart race and release the hormones in my body. And so I learned: I need smiles from a woman to get hooked.
Other insights followed, which I might write about later. But please keep in mind that there are many things one needs in order to get excited. For me, it is the ‘shape’ of the one I would like to spend the night with, the fantasies (lots of) I want to share, and it is the smile that shows me she is open for a heavenly experience.
And these things are different for all of us. So my recommendation certainly is: follow your instincts, not books.
Christian Schewanowsky Goldsmith.of.words@gmx.de
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