Finding Sexual Fulfillment is So Easy for Him & Difficult for Me

Hi Betty,

My (recent) ex engages in a lot of casual sex, & never has any trouble finding a willing partner whenever he wants. I feel *really* bitter that finding (at least some basic level of) sexual fulfillment is so easy for him, & comparatively so difficult for me. I'm convinced that the cards are stacked against me in a variety of (mostly gendered ways) - ie casual sex is a much riskier proposition for me (in terms of pregnancy as well as risk of violence), weeding out the misogynists is hard & exhausting work, a lot of straight men are selfish or just bad lovers, etc....&, in my opinion, there are just not nearly as many attractive men as there are attractive women.

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