Use This In Any Relationship – JOGs Give Us a New Practice

I sat down this morning to receive a message from the JOGs. I thought we would pick up where we left off on the Love audio (which is seriously blowing my mind!), but instead this came through. And oh wow did I need this. Those guys, they are so smart! Going to do this practice now, let us know how this unfolds for you too! Love! Xo

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Today we want to talk to you about an aspect of your Spirit in a body lives that you cannot escape, nor would you want to. It is an aspect that when aligned and when connected to Source every area of your life begins to flow with more ease. And when it is not in your Highest alignment, the bumps and potholes it creates on your road of life are immense.

This is the area of personal relationships. Whether with family, friends or romantic partners or even the checker at the grocery store, you cannot avoid this meaningful and important aspect of your life experience. And yet there can be much struggle for you as you seek to find the ways to best align with who you really are and love these blessed ones around you.

And so our intention today is to support you in being able to interact, intersect and dance this life dance with these ones with more ease and certainly more joy. And it is our intention that through your powerful knowing of this information and your powerful connection to who you really are you can soar far beyond your current realm of personal relating.

The first piece we must make clear here is that no one on this planet is here solely for you. True, the Love of your Life came specifically to meet up with you as you did for them. Even so, they are not here to solely make you happy nor are you here for solely their happiness. Your children also chose to specifically come in through you but again, they are not here for you – you are a vehicle, a conduit, a guide on their path – you are not the path or the only way for them to have all that they desire. It is ultimately their connection to their Highest Self and Source that provides the gateway to all they truly are here for and truly desire.

And so, no one came just for you. No one is here solely to make you happy and to serve your needs. And this is a very good thing because it is solely your responsibility, all Spirit’s in a body’s responsibility to make their happiness their primary focus. When this is done everything in life can smooth out with more ease. So now you know the basis you are here for – you – and the others in your life are all here for them. You all agreed to meet up because you had specific gifts and messages and support and fun and joy and bliss to offer one another in this lifetime that would not be available otherwise.

Then what is your responsibility as it were to the others around you? What is your role in their life unfolding? And of course it is different depending on the relationship but always for every single one it’s to bring more joy and love into their life. To, from your connected to Source place, let your own joy and love shine to them. Now, let us be clear here because there of those of you who have a proclivity to over-do it. Over-give. You suffer from what Heather and her Soul Alignment sessions would call Over-responsibility syndrome. You do not do this for them, you BE it, you radiate it. You are it. You are so fully emanating your own connection to love and joy that everyone who comes into contact with you has this experience of love and joy.

So that’s the first bit with others and yourself. But what happens when they are not connected to their love & joy (and perhaps you are not either at that time) and they annoy you, when they push your buttons so to speak, when they are goading you or have an agenda and you are not certain how to stand shining your beauteous Light around them?

And we say in all cases, walk away. When someone is not in their full Light and in fact they are angry at you for being in yours, there is nothing more to do than walk away. Walk away and maybe come back at another time. Say a blessing – call on your Guides and Angels of the Highest Light to bless the person and yourself and the situation and then walk away. There is no need to engage in anything that is not of the Highest Light.

So let’s say you walk away but you are angry or hurt or vengeful or filled with grief. You can feel the emotion within you and you know that you don’t want to do anything to hurt or harm another yet there is still that intense, not good feeling emotion right there.

And we say that is a very good thing. Because your emotion has a message for you. So we want you to sit with your emotion. Feel it boiling in your body and begin to breathe into it – begin to with your inhale through the nose – we have guided Heather to teach this to others in her sessions and we are sharing it here now – your inhale is gathering up that emotion and as you feel it you exhale out your mouth to release it. Just keep sitting with that emotion and work with it in this way – feeling, inhaling it up and exhaling it out.

Some of you are going to want to write out your emotions to fully release them. You are going to want to write the expletives and anger and rage and grief and whatever else is there. Do it, get it out. But before you do this set your intention. Be clear that this energy that is emanating from you is yours and yours alone and that you are not sending it to anyone, it is not meant to be an attack, it is not to hurt anyone, it is simply stymied within you and it needs to be released because it cannot stay in your body-mind. If it stays in your body-mind it hurts you, it harms your body, it breaks down your systems and delivers to you what you would call dis-ease.

So set your boundaries and intentions so that no form of attack or harm is done to another. When you do this releasing without setting those boundaries, you send energy to another that bounces back to you and hurts you 100-fold. It is not worth it dear ones, we assure you. You may when in a more unconscious vibration think that speaking words of venom about another or harboring thoughts of hurt and venom towards another felt like release, but really what that was doing all along was poisoning you, poisoning those you were speaking to and sending ill intent to another. And any time you harbor ill will towards another you bring on the ill intent on yourself in greater quantities. This is how the Universe is set up and it’s set up as such so that you are supported, so that you can truly remember what is most important – you are here for you. And your connection to the non-physical energy around you and your ability to “work” with it is what can deliver to you the utmost of life happiness and fulfilment.

So use this process when you get angry or sad or hurt or any intense life emotions. Do not engage with the other until you can come back in a more solid, grounded, aligned place. Take the time and space you need to process your intense emotions and then come back to the situation. Sometimes you will return to the situation – depending on the relationship – and the response will be “I love you, I bless you and I can no longer stay intimately connected with you.”

Other times you will be gifted with seeing fully that there is a path to harmony in that relationship. But you will get to neither if you do not first let yourself feel the emotions and then release it. We know this is uncomfortable for many of you. It is extremely uncomfortable for Heather. Anger is an emotion she does not like to feel or let herself feel. She does not want to feel hate in her heart, she does not want to know that it is even possible for it to be there.

But dear ones, it is there in some form or another for all of you. It is from the collective lack of love that has built up over time, it is from previous lifetimes when you have journeyed with that other and resentments have built, it’s from this lifetime and resentments have built. And all that anger or hatred or sadness or grief is simply where Light has not been shined on it. The feelings have not been allowed to be felt in a way that allows them to release. And what those feelings need is room to breathe and release.

And dear ones, when you allow yourself to do this, there you find the truth of it all, of all things. And in that truth you realize your one-ness and you realize the perfection of all that is. And even when the answer is to distance yourself from the other, to leave the other, to end the relationship, you are flying Higher than you’ve ever done because you are setting yourself free by truly feeling and releasing

Enjoy this practice. Use it as often as you need to and let us know in your prayers, in your letters, in your comments, in your emails to Heather what is unfolding for you as you set yourself free and bring more Light in.

In Love,

XoTheJOGs