WHAT I'VE LEARNED ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP I WANT

Hi all!

It’s been a while since I last blogged. Sorry about that. Here’s what’s been up:

Writing. Editing. Getting the final touches on Fall Natalie’s Edge 2. Final submission is due Monday. Yikes!

Falling in love.

 Falling out of love.

What a whirlwind it has been. I think I may have thought I was living in my novels!

Seriously. The relationship I was pursuing was intense. Insane. Full of passion and angst. Misunderstandings. Miscommunication. But man. It was alive! Full of energy and new ideas. It made me question myself and my life. What do I really want in a relationship? Here is what I concluded:

WHAT I WANT:

I want passion.

I want to be pushed to my limits.

I want trust and respect .

I want the sex to be hot and passionate and even unpredictable at times.

I want to be cared for.

ABOVE ALL, I want to be loved and understood.

WHAT I DON’T WANT:

I do not want a narcissist.

I do not want someone who is insensitive to my feelings.

I do not want to be walking on eggshells at every turn.

I do not want to be made to feel like I must be perfect.

I do not want someone who expects things of me that he is not willing to give.

AND! I do not want to mix fantasy with reality ever again.

My takeaway from all of this?

I’ll stick to writing tumultuous, passion-driven novels with flawed male characters like Michael L. Black. But in my real life, I’ll be sticking with my sweet, kind, and trust-worthy man. Angst be damned! I’m sick of the all the pain that comes with it.  How about you? What MUST your relationship have? What can you live without? Because as we know, nothing is perfect. Or is it?