Don’t Try To Be Humble. Just Try to Be Yourself.

Just before I got married, someone asked me what I was most excited about.

My answer was, “I’m just so excited to be a wife. I’m going to be better than the best wife he’s ever dreamed of. I’m going to serve him and love him…” blah, blah, blah. I went on like that for awhile.

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At the time, not only was I being totally serious, I also felt really proud of myself for being so humble.

Here was the problem.

That whole theory unraveled for me in my first few months of marriage. It just plain didn’t work. Not only was I always conducting this sort of performance for my husband—the cooking, the cleaning, the doing whatever he asked me to do, the always saying “yes” and always being whoever he needed me to be—I was also slowly withering away.

He wasn’t getting the truest or best picture of who I was.

In fact, things really started to go bad after just a couple of weeks.

While I was being the loving, supportive wife I thought he wanted, I had loads of resentment building up.Storyline Blog