5 Mindset Traps That Keep You Stuck
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When it comes to creating freedom in your life, the battle starts in your mind. Everyone struggles with doubt, fear, and self-limiting beliefs. Some use them as fuel to do what most people think is impossible. Some, sadly, give into these roadblocks and stay stuck.
Whenever we read something about mindset, we say, “thanks for the reminder.” While we think of this as a reminder, we fail to realize how important mindset is to making significant changes in our life. Mindset strength isn’t a reminder; it’s a daily battle to conquer the most important part of life-change.
Mindset traps keep too many dreamers stuck or defeated from even trying. There are five common, but critical mindset traps all of us need to overcome every day if we’re going to live our dreams and change the world.
1. I have to take on as much as possible
In our society, we wear busyness as a badge of honor. The busier we are, the more important we feel. When someone asks us something, we’re proud to say we’re busy.
Being busy doesn’t help you accomplish your dream. There are a thousand meaningless tasks that can suck your attention yet not help you achieve your goals. Social media alone takes more time than it gives back in ROI.
Your goal should be to take on the tasks that will help you where you are. Take on the tasks that will help your next steps. Being busy keeps you from what’s important to your life and will make your family hate your dream.
2. I have to do what the influencers do
When you see someone successful, it’s natural to want to copy what they do. You figure that if they had success in that way, you can too if you do what they did. I wish it were that simple, but it’s NOT.
When it comes to doing business, people always choose the original. You should strive to model success, not copy it. Influencers aren’t the key to your success, you are. Use systems but don’t become a clone.
3. I can’t make real money
Making money on your dream is incredibly hard. I remember being bitter when I didn’t make money with my books. I saw others selling books and thought they were lying, and all of this is a scam. Once I changed what I valued, the money followed.
There IS real money in your dream. It starts with point one and two. Once you stop wasting time and focus, you can see where the real money can be made. You offer incredible value and your time is worth more. Don’t settle because you think you have to, take your dream seriously.
4. I have to work for free
Man, this one makes me mad. I have heard so many “experts,” say that working for free is the way to paid work. FALSE! I coached 127 hours for free thinking it would lead to paid coaching; it didn’t. I believe life gives you the best experience, so I don’t regret it, but free doesn’t work.
Your time is the most valuable thing you have, and you should charge accordingly. You only get one life to live and time is the one thing you’ll never get back. You don’t and shouldn’t give it away for free. People don’t respect what they get for free and when they have skin in the game; they are more likely to take action.
5. It’s too hard to create freedom
Yes, building your dream is hard. I’m not going to give you a cheesy line, but there’s a reason too many dreamers wash out. While it may be hard, it’s important. You could wake up every day doing something you love, or something you hate.
My life isn’t perfect, but it’s pretty sweet. I get to wake up and experience freedom. I can spend my time reading, writing to you, and listening to music. I get to coach the most amazing clients and consult some excellent companies. AND, I get paid to do this. Are you kidding me? It took three years and many tears but I created this life, and you better believe it was worth the struggle.
I don’t know where you are in your journey, but your mindset is crucial and needs to be addressed every day. Don’t fall for these five mindset traps that keep too many dreamers stuck.
Realize that this all comes down to a choice. You decide what you will believe and what actions you take. I hope you choose to believe in yourself and your dreams.
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Where are you at in your dream chasing journey?
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Photo: Flickr/ Kenny Louie
