how did you get over being cheated on? How did you learn to trust again enough to be with someone else? I've had bad relationships my entire life and I'm in one right now that feels good but I still spend most days feeling anxious and unable to trust. Most

It takes time, love. It always takes time. Time and especially effort on both persons parts. It’s not your fault that your heart is weary and wants to be on guard. That is a good thing actually. Sometimes you have to let people in. Mostly the right people because then it’s worth it. You just have to keep in mind that this person is not the other person. This person is different. This person may or may not hurt you. Don’t put everything inside of them yet, but don’t leave them with nothing. It all depends on your relationship. Trust is the main thing. If you can trust them, you can do anything. If you don’t have to second-guess or worry about what they are doing without you, that’s a good and healthy relationship. Or a relationship that is worth holding. 

It took me a lot of time to not only get over it but to trust others and myself when it came to giving out my hope and heart. I was always on edge or always assuming things. Mostly when it came to the person who hurt me when I stayed with them. But my heart and my head were not wrong in that situation because in the end, they did it to me again, and I wasn’t wrong. 

The man I am with now, have been with for years, I can trust him with literally every section of my being. I have never had to panic or stress because he was without me. I could fully rely on him and knowing that he would never hurt me because I would never hurt him. I knew that we both loved and still love each other. That we are the one ones that we want to come home to. That no one else comes into our mind because it’s too full of them. 

All relationships are different though. All relationships need time to grow and time to trust. There is nothing wrong with that. You just have to have hope, love. Hope that this one is not like the last. Hope that things will only grow and become even more beautiful and that this will be the one that know will never hurt you for selfish reasons or for reasons that are indeed in their control. Just have hope, love.