but i think kisses like that perpetuate the need of men to be aggressive/masculine and leads to things like if i put my hand on her throat, consent doesn't matter. im a man, i own this body. i have a right to it. ya know??

I’m inclined to disagree with you to the extent that if a man I didn’t trust tried to put his hands on my throat, I’d break his fingers. Kisses like that, cradling the face, cupping the back of the neck, holding the throat, they come from a place of great trust because one twitch and the person kissing you can do serious damage.