Why is the Internet Going Crazy Because a Duggar Kid Had a C-Section?

Picture I don't get it.  Can someone please explain to me why the latest Duggar kid is all of a sudden a hero because she had a c-section?  I didn't even know there was a stigma in society against c-sections.  Seriously.  This is the first I'm hearing of it.  

In one article, a psychologist of some sort said that moms who wanted a vaginal birth but had to have a c-section need to have time to deal with their grief.  Excuse me?  Grief?  The only grief I experienced after my c-section was that I couldn't use the excuse "eating for two" anymore.  

I understand the hullabaloo about more natural shit regarding children, but to feel like I didn't give birth because my daughter didn't come out of my vagina?  I carried that child for 9 months.  Dealt with crazy hormones, back pain, sleepless nights, sneezing out pee and acid reflux that could take the wax off your car.  I gave birth to a child.  BELIEVE ME.  

There is no judgment on my part if you want to have an at-home birth in your bathtub with candles lit with Beethoven playing on your iPod.  And when your baby comes out into the water, the transition between being in mommy's tummy and earth is the most beautiful moment in the world.  

You want to know what my most beautiful moment in the world was like when my daughter was pulled from my stomach because after an hour of pushing (and shitting myself) she wasn't moving?  Throwing up because of the epidural.  So beautiful.

Now the Duggar kid is telling the world that next time, she will definitely have a "natural" birth.  Good for her.  But I just want to tell her that no one is judging her for having a c-section.  It happens.  Sometimes life gets in the way of the best laid plans and you have to roll with it.  

When my friends starting having babies (long before me) I was shocked that they were only in the hospital for 24 hours after giving birth.  Obviously the insurance company wants the new family to bond at home as quickly as possible.

You know what I got to do at the hospital because I had a c-section?  I got to stay there for 72 hours.  I was given Vicodin, Ambien, and was able to sleep any time I wanted.  I ordered my meals from the menu and had them brought right to my bed.  I even had a catheter so I didn't have to get up from bed to pee.  AND I was more pampered by the hospital staff in 72 hours than I was by my ex-husband for 9 months.  I really didn't want to leave.  

Natural birth, vaginal birth, c-section - it's all the same.  The end goal is to have a baby, isn't it?  Who cares how the baby comes into this world?  I don't know about you, but I can't look at a kid and tell whether or not he or she was delivered vaginally or via c-section.  And even if we could tell the difference, we wouldn't bully the kid, right?  

So why bully the mom?  
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Published on April 17, 2015 10:43
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