Hello Eros! I have this massive crush on one of my friend, but she is already dating someone who is awesome, and I want to be happy for her because, hey, i should have said something earlier, but all i am is bitter and sad. Does that make me a bad friend?

You are not a bad friend. As a matter of fact, kudos to you for recognizing that this is your deal and not hers and realizing you need to cope with it instead of whining about being friendzoned. Well done. Not being a douche is half the battle! As for getting over her:

1.Take three giant steps back. You’re close, and closeness breeds intimacy, which means the what ifs and but maybes are always going to be lingering around in the background, even if you’re just hanging out eating Cheetos and watching Space Jam for the millionth time. Especially then. Also, watching her be happy in a relationship and talking with her about being happy in a relationship with someone else hurts like hell. Protect your heart, respect her boundaries, take a break from social media, be unavailable on occasion.  Give both of you a little breathing room.

2. Be sad. It’s okay! When you’re into someone and they don’t like you back it sucks. Super sucks. Just make sure you don’t dump it on her. Find another friend who will let you get it out, or a bottle of wine, or a tub of Chunky Monkey, listen to Adele, feel your feelings and then LET THEM GO.

3. Find someone else. Even if it’s just one date. Just flirting online. Sure, sure they’ll never compare to her, or least you’ve convinced yourself so, but it doesn’t matter. You’re looking for fun and some reciprocation, it doesn’t need to be the world’s next grand love affair. It could be, though! And that’s already better than a one-sided crush.

4. Do not hold out hope. Your goal is to get over the crush and move on and you cannot do that if you hold desperately to the possibility that once she dumps this loser it’s your time to step in and make a move. Again, you gotta let go.

And listen, you seem awesome and your friend is totally missing out on your awesomeness, so go on and spend time just being your awesome self. Make art, learn a new hobby, take a class, travel, hang out with someone new. Don’t ditch your friend, but don’t rely on them to meet your emotional needs either. Put the Chunky Monkey away, stop playing Rolling in the Deep on repeat, and go find your bliss.