Those Words

Words hurt.  No matter how many times someone tries to change an impression that their words have created, the pain never goes away. 

As a child I remember being told I was ugly, insignificant and would make nothing of myself.  All this was said by adults, teachers and others in my little world. Does it matter if they thought I couldn’t hear them?   I don’t think so. Those words hurt, and for awhile they made me stop trying to achieve success in my life. 

In my opinion, one of the most difficult things to forgive are harsh comments, mean statements and negative talk. They are so emotionally damaging and difficult to get past. These comments can destroy an individual’s chance of success. 

  

It takes a huge effort to move past these negative actions and comments. I don’t believe they ever go away, they haunt for days and years. We can forgive in order to move past, but it is never the same. 

I have blogged before about being told by a elementary school teacher that I would never write a book, it hurt back then.  But that hurt carried into the here and now. I published two novels last year, and was feeling very proud of my efforts. They have not become best sellers, but they have had impact. The messages I have received, made it all worth it. 

In the recent months, that feeling of success has been trounced and reduced to nothing again, simply by the arguments and harsh words of a disintegrating relationship. I choose to believe the words were said in anger, and I am most definitely guilty of saying things in the heat of the moment as well.  I have apologized and received an apology but, none the less the damage is done. 

  

Please, please do be careful what you say. Sometimes an apology can not change the effect of your words. What you say can ruin another’s hopes and dreams. The words will forever haunt.

As I am moving forward into life on my own, I am reminded that words are very powerful and forgiveness can sometimes not be enough. I haven’t been able to work on my novels in progress for a few months. I feel like it is a waste of effort at this point.  However, some very wise individuals in my social media circle have said, “give it time” and so I shall.  

Thank you all for your continued support and guidance. 

Remember no matter what.. 
How good it is or 
How Bad it is. 
It won’t last… 
‘ Life is forever changing’….. 
This too shall pass!