Together For Better
Faithful….what does that word evoke? Does it make you think of someone who is religious? A devoted family member, parent, or spouse? Does it make you think of a trusted employee or boss?
I question a lot whether this word means anything anymore. It is disheartening to see all the unfaithfulness in the world. Particularly in relationships. Media has done an amazing job at creating a fantasy of what relationships look like. When people get into a real relationship they expect everything to go perfect, when it doesn’t they often feel they have the right to “look” elsewhere. This can come in the form of a full blown affair. Giving though to the idea of an affair, addictions to porn or romance novels, or to putting up walls and just being cold towards one another.
Relationships will try you. There is no doubt about it. It can often be the hardest thing you’ve ever faced….but at the same hand it is also the greatest, most wonderful thing that will ever happen to you.
Life is flawed, as such, people are flawed, when you bring two people together those flaws often clash and cause arguments. It’s not the end of the world. It simply takes being faithful and committed and working through whatever issues are present.
There is a reason that marriages are done with an oath in front of witnesses. That reason is because yes marriage is very hard, and there can be times when you question whether you made the right decision. Those oaths are for those challenging times to remind you that “for better or worse”. It doesn’t just say “for better”.
That being said when you are committed and faithful to your marriage and give it the priority it deserves, marriage can be amazing. The trust you build when you are both fully committed and engaged is unlike any other bond in this world. It is the only bond like it. That ability to be so close to not only your spouse, but to your best friend is worth more than anything.
Faithful….it takes being committed. Committed to excellence, committed to putting your spouse first, above what you want. Committed to staying faithful, not just physically, but mentally, and emotionally. Many think it’s okay to look at other men and women while you are married, many think it’s okay to lust after other guys or girls. Or to look at inappropriate images whether it be on computer, a TV screen, or whether it be words on a page. But I assure it’s not. Every one of those things is like playing with fire and is extremely dangerous to a marriage and can often burn it to the ground.
Stay committed, stay faithful. Nothing is more fulfilling when you do this. And it’s never too late to start.
