Scared of the Fall

Men are consistently looked at as the braver gender- the gender that kills spiders, checks the basement at 2 in the morning when girls hear noises, and the gender that are more likely to head off to war.

Today, while thinking about the boys I talk to (and totally waste my time with)... I wondered, whose the really "scaredy-cat" when it comes to love?

Sure, if I watch The Conjuring, you know that my nails will be digging deep into the arms of whichever guy I went to see it with.
But, in the matters of the heart- I am never scared. I go with my gut, I'm brutally honest with guys, and I never hold back.

Now, (most) guys have absolutely no problem with scary movies, and yet right when the topic of commitment gets brought into conversation- they are IMMEDIATELY digging their heels in.

So, I started to wonder why that was. Why are men afraid of something real?

My initial answer was something along the lines of "Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus".
My second instinct was... guys are afraid of letting down that layer for one reason and one reason only: they don't want to look weak.

They don't want to get hurt.

Men are told not to cry, to protect us girls, and to always stay strong- and love can very easily tear them down.

The thing that men aren't realizing (especially college guys) is that we are just as vulnerable. It's called "falling in love" for a reason- because you are supposed to be caught.

And, speaking on behalf on the female population- I think that most women would love to catch their men. To really help them to let their guards down. To understand them completely.

So boys- maybe physically you're stronger, but emotionally it's definitely time to take some pointers from the girls. It's okay to be vulnerable. It's okay to get your heart broken. And it's okay to cry over your ex.

There's no weakness in opening up, being emotional. It'll only make you stronger- and maybe even Braver.