Those Who Think They Have a Lot of Friends Just Think They Have a Lot of Friends

Technology has made it possible for those living in isolated areas or afflicted with severe physical or mental restrictions to interact with and contribute to society on a regular basis. A prime example is Stephen Hawking. Applying technological advancements to improve quality of life is great. That said; I personally choose not to embrace some of the applications of this technology that have become quite popular throughout the world; particularly, social websites such as Facebook. Each of my four adult children has a Facebook page. There is nothing wrong with it; it just isn't for me.

I have no desire to like someone on the condition that they will like me in return or obsess over how many friends I have. Don't get me wrong, I am not an introvert. I love to socialize and communicate on a regular basis. I would just rather do my socializing at dinner parties, picnics, restaurants, cocktail lounges, dances, and family gatherings. I prefer to get to know the person with whom I am socializing and communicating, rather than exchange typed messages with a cyber representation of a personality that may or may not actually exist.

I will occasionally befriend someone, but I will never "friend" them. I may like someone, after I have known them and interacted with them for a time, but I will never swap "likes" or profess to like someone I don't know.

We make many acquaintances during our life, but very few of them ever exhibit the level of trustworthiness, faithfulness, and dependability required to merit the title of friend. Friends are always there for each other, regardless of the circumstances. Acquaintances are fickle.

The extremely high standard which I associate with friendship has resulted in my having had only a dozen friends during my 67 years of life. Many may consider that a paltry number. To them I say, those who think they have a lot of friends just think they have a lot of friends.
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Published on March 02, 2015 09:25
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message 1: by Margaret (new)

Margaret Welwood Well said. But I think that in many cases (like mine), it's about building your online platform in order to sell your books, knowing and accepting that the people who "friend" you are probably also building their platforms.


message 2: by Jim (new)

Jim Vuksic Margaret wrote: "Well said. But I think that in many cases (like mine), it's about building your online platform in order to sell your books, knowing and accepting that the people who "friend" you are probably also..."

Margaret,
Thank you for taking the time to read the blog post, commenting, and sharing your opinion.
I wish you success with your book sales.
Jim


message 3: by Margaret (new)

Margaret Welwood Thank you, Jim. I hope to sell many!


message 4: by Lenita (new)

Lenita Sheridan My Facebook page is not for people I've never met, at least my personal Facebook page isn't. My personal Facebook page is for personal friends who I know outside of Facebook. In fact Facebook has been quite useful for me because I've gotten in touch with some long lost friends that way.

However, I do accept friend requests from people I don't know on Goodreads, but I always check out their profile before I accept the request.


message 5: by Jim (new)

Jim Vuksic Lenita wrote: "My Facebook page is not for people I've never met, at least my personal Facebook page isn't. My personal Facebook page is for personal friends who I know outside of Facebook. In fact Facebook has b..."

Ms. Sheridan,
Thank you for taking the time to read the blog post and commenting. Facebook apparently has proven quite useful and beneficial in your particular case. Nothing is inherently good or bad. How we humans choose to use it determines that.
Jim


message 6: by Alicia (new)

Alicia Ehrhardt One thing having a lot of 'friends' in an online group is very good for is support groups. In mine, with 500 members, there is always someone there if you need to talk at 4am. As an almost shut-in, this is very handy - and I do my share of supporting others.

We all know what it is, but closer friendships also develop when I find like-minded people who share my illness.

My FB page gets few updates, and is for people I have real relationships with. But I've reconnected with friends from childhood - we went to school together or Girl Guides and Girl Scouts - even casually, these are people I would never see or hear from in real life (I live in NJ, get to Mexico rarely, and don't have energy for them when I'm there anyway).

We each get 24 hours every day, though. People with too many friends have too little time for each, so I keep that manageable, or get nothing done. I have books to write!

I don't think of my friends as potential readers - that's not why we're friends. A lot of them bought Pride's Children when it came out. I, on my part, made sure it was 0.99 for several days exactly for them: I don't want to soak my friends.

Few have actually read it; only one that I know of loved it and is writing a review. That's fine. It is enough to know that they now understand what the heck I've been doing all these years.


message 7: by Jim (new)

Jim Vuksic Alicia wrote: "One thing having a lot of 'friends' in an online group is very good for is support groups. In mine, with 500 members, there is always someone there if you need to talk at 4am. As an almost shut-in,..."

Alicia,

More people, including those friends you mentioned, may have read your book than you think. I wish you success in your writing.

Thank you for taking the time to view the blog post and sharing your viewpoint regarding the positive utilization of social media.

Jim Vuksic


message 8: by Alicia (new)

Alicia Ehrhardt Several lovely people, including a reviewer here, have promised to take a look.

Me, I'll do spots of promotion here and other places - and get back to work writing Book 2 as soon as I finish getting the POD information off to Createspace.

Writing IS my passion - and I am blessed to be able to do it, in spite of illness. It's a good thing my passion wasn't large public sculptures!


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