HEA wha....!?
Something I have been thinking about A LOT. HEAs are funny things to me.
I am a firm believer in the HEA. Never say never, but I will be shocked if I ever deliver a non-HEA to you - I grew up on Disney movies and When Harry Met Sally. The boy ALWAYS gets the girl in the end, that's the way it's meant to be.
But apparently, that's not enough for some people.
I find it ... interesting, that to so many people, an HEA seems to be defined by getting married and having babies. Really? Seems ... archaic, to be quite honest.
Not that it's not okay. I just think there are LOTS of different ways to get an HEA. Maybe it is getting married and having babies.
But maybe it's running off into the Tuscan sun and living as lovers for the next 20+ years.
Maybe it means living in Cambodia and the only children you have are the ones you adopt.
You know the actress Tilda Swinton? Well, she's married and has children. She ALSO has a boyfriend, who travels with her. Basically a man for when in country, and a man for when abroad. It works for them. That's their HEA.
I also like a bit of mystery. It's enough for me to hear the proclamation of love and to be given enough info to make a safe assumption that whatever is their version of an HEA, happens. In When Harry Met Sally, you don't SEE the wedding, and you don't SEE their children. But you can assume those things happen. So I'm good.
I can't imagine having the movie continue, with Harry and Sally going about their everyday lives. Whose turn is it to do the dishes? Did you remember to call the people about the broken furnace? Where are my car keys!? Did you remember to tell your boss you need to leave early for parent/teacher conferences?
Fuck that. Not very romantic to me. No, I like leaving it with him shouting his love to her on a sidewalk, and the fade out of a kiss.
And this is just me. I get that those "every day" things happen in real life, and people like to read about those things. Awesome pawsome.
But don't let them define what an ultimate HEA is. Just because YOU need those things, doesn't mean everyone else does. A marriage and babies don't define love anymore than crazy wild sex does.
It's all fantasy, man, so I'm gonna live it up.
Hell, maybe even ride off into the Tuscan sun with TWO lovers ...
I am a firm believer in the HEA. Never say never, but I will be shocked if I ever deliver a non-HEA to you - I grew up on Disney movies and When Harry Met Sally. The boy ALWAYS gets the girl in the end, that's the way it's meant to be.
But apparently, that's not enough for some people.
I find it ... interesting, that to so many people, an HEA seems to be defined by getting married and having babies. Really? Seems ... archaic, to be quite honest.
Not that it's not okay. I just think there are LOTS of different ways to get an HEA. Maybe it is getting married and having babies.
But maybe it's running off into the Tuscan sun and living as lovers for the next 20+ years.
Maybe it means living in Cambodia and the only children you have are the ones you adopt.
You know the actress Tilda Swinton? Well, she's married and has children. She ALSO has a boyfriend, who travels with her. Basically a man for when in country, and a man for when abroad. It works for them. That's their HEA.
I also like a bit of mystery. It's enough for me to hear the proclamation of love and to be given enough info to make a safe assumption that whatever is their version of an HEA, happens. In When Harry Met Sally, you don't SEE the wedding, and you don't SEE their children. But you can assume those things happen. So I'm good.
I can't imagine having the movie continue, with Harry and Sally going about their everyday lives. Whose turn is it to do the dishes? Did you remember to call the people about the broken furnace? Where are my car keys!? Did you remember to tell your boss you need to leave early for parent/teacher conferences?
Fuck that. Not very romantic to me. No, I like leaving it with him shouting his love to her on a sidewalk, and the fade out of a kiss.
And this is just me. I get that those "every day" things happen in real life, and people like to read about those things. Awesome pawsome.
But don't let them define what an ultimate HEA is. Just because YOU need those things, doesn't mean everyone else does. A marriage and babies don't define love anymore than crazy wild sex does.
It's all fantasy, man, so I'm gonna live it up.
Hell, maybe even ride off into the Tuscan sun with TWO lovers ...
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Feb 23, 2015 09:11PM
I wanna ride off into the Tuscan sun w/ TWO lovers.. that kind of HEA sounds awesome! Lol
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BookLovin wrote: "I wanna ride off into the Tuscan sun w/ TWO lovers.. that kind of HEA sounds awesome! Lol"Right!? Tuscany sounds AMAZING!!
.... oh yeah, and the two dudes would be super awesome, too ;D
BookLovin wrote: "I wanna ride off into the Tuscan sun w/ TWO lovers.. that kind of HEA sounds awesome! Lol"Love this idea....maybe not Tuscany for me but the two lovers sounds awesome indeed.
I agree. I like that there's multiple ways for the HEA to go. As long as the couple is clearly together and clearly happy about it (no matter what that means for them) then I'm satisfied. In fact, I think it's kind of boring if all of them end the same. Where is the character specific ending? It's ok, kids and marriage aren't for everyone. One of the stories I really like had a sort of open relationship at the end, but that worked with who the characters were and they were happy so I was happy. I guess happiness is the key for me. If they're all happy then I'm happy :)
i don't need marriage and babies in my story. sometimes those are too cliche anyway. as long as both party is at a good place and satisfied, that's my HEA.Tuscon and Cambodia works for me, but not Tilda Swinton.
Ok, so maybe being just 40 makes me too traditional, but no way on the two lovers. That's way too much work!! That means I have to learn/care about two sets of families, listen to glory stories times two, have football season times two, college basketball times two, two guys who can't pickup or wash their own boxers...And I will never get to touch a remote....no thank youNow, alternating handymen who are the strong silent type, that could work! Of course the crazy wild sex is included.
My HEA is alluding to a future promise. What that promise entails is totally up for grabs.
