The Twilight Generation and The Hobbit movies

The Twilight books, followed by the Twilight movies, came out after The Lord of the Rings movies.  The first Twilight book came out in 2005, two years after the theatrical release of The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King. 
I don’t know if the attitudes and relationships portrayed in Twilight influenced the way The Hobbit was made into a movie or not, but there is a lot about the movie portrayal of the so-called romance between Kili and Tauriel that reminded me a lot of the attitudes and relationship dynamics that were in Twilight.  I don’t know if the attitudes and thinking of Twilight influenced what went into the making of The Hobbit movies, but they seem awfully similar.
Twilight has convinced almost an entire generation of girls that if a boy is manipulative and controlling, that he must care about them.  They’ve been convinced that a boy who is sensitive and thoughtful is to be passed over for the dangerous, brooding, manipulative one.  It has also convinced them that they are worth nothing without having a boy to define them.  Thanks in large part to Twilight, girls often think that it is romantic to think that the sole reason they came into existence, was to be with a man.  (I once read a fanfic wherein the female main character actually told the boy that she believed that she was born for the purpose of marrying him.  And the author honestly seemed to think that there was nothing wrong with it.  I was flabbergasted.)  These destructive ideas have been around for as long as humanity has, unfortunately, but Twilight has exacerbated the idea that a disrespectful, controlling man is actually the one who loves the girl the most.
In the Hobbit movies directed by Peter Jackson, the character of Kili starts off similar to the way he starts off in the book, which I love.  But in the second movie, when he meets Tauriel the female elf, he becomes someone I no longer recognize.  One of the first things Kili says to her, is that he wants her to look down his pants.  For myself, I saw through that comment, and realized that it was the disrespectful, suggestive, crude statement that it was, a statement that would never have escaped the lips of a man who had any real regard for the woman he was addressing.  Any girl who respects herself and is sure and certain of her worth as a person, and is not easily influenced by what the media tells her she needs to believe, would see immediately that such a suggestive comment is not something a man capable of feeling real love would ever say.  Unfortunately, not all young women are as level headed as they ought to be for their own lasting good.  They do what sounds pleasing, taught to them by books and movies like Twilight, and then end up in relationships that are abusive; mentally, verbally or physically, and don’t understand why.
After Tauriel heals Kili in the third movie, he will not let go his pursuit of her, expresses to her his sexual attraction to her, and asks her to leave her people and come with him.  Again, I saw this request for what it was.  He did not care about her lasting happiness.  Whether he was immediately conscious of it or not, Kili knew that Tauriel was immortal and that he was not.  He knew that in a few decades, he would begin to grow old, become unattractive, and eventually die while she would remain young looking and unchanged through the whole of their relationship.  In the Lord of the Rings movies, Aragorn knew this same thing, and because of it, he was very reluctant to bind himself to Arwen.  Not because he didn’t love her, but because he did.  Aragorn was concerned, deeply, about Arwen’s lasting good and happiness.  In contrast, Kili clearly showed by his aggressive pursuit of Tauriel that he cared nothing for her as a living being.  In all frankness, Kili was interested in Tauriel only for what she could do for him.  Sexually and otherwise.  Not for anything he could give her.  Kili clearly wanted Tauriel, but not because he was concerned about her lasting welfare.  Only because of what he believed she could do for him.  Despite his words declaring that he loved her, they were hollow and meaningless, and actually quite ugly to hear because of the way he showed his true feelings by his actions.  (Young people might argue vehemently that Kili died to save Tauriel, but that was a forced addition, something choreographed by the movie makers.  In real life, a man who talked to Tauriel in the same way that Kili did to Tauriel, would not put himself through any sort of difficulty for her sake.)
And for Tauriel’s part, she showed her fellow real life females nothing useful about how to react to the aggressive pursuit of a man who is good at lip-service, but clearly has no real regard for her.  She made it painfully obvious that she had no respect for herself.  But in this generation of young people, young women in particular, who were prepped by the philosophies fed to them by Twilight, ideas like this sell.
I am not a best selling author.  I write on the side as a way to hopefully bring in a little supplementary income to support my main income, which is teaching.  But if the only way to earn any substantial income from writing is to write what is popular, easy and comfortable, not what helps people become better human beings, then I don’t ever want to be popular.  I would rather be dirt poor my whole life, than ever find myself thinking like Stephenie Meyer, or the makers of the Hobbit movies.