What a rape counselor says - a review

What a rape counselor says.
Review: To The Survivors by Robert Uttaro

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Rape is a crime that affects both men and women. “People say that it’s a woman’s issue, but one could argue that it’s a man’s issue because the majority of perpetrators are men. I would simply argue it’s a human problem, but I do believe men have a huge role in reducing sexual violence.” So listen up, guys and gals.

Uttaro is a first time author who tells a very personal story of becoming a rape counselor. I read the book because I wanted the insights. Rape is something I hate. My personal mantra: “Don’t take what is not freely offered.” Rape demeans people and steals the bliss and joy of sexual union. It shattered the sharing and caring between two people. It breaks my heart. And I think rape sensitivity training is the next generational hurdle we face as a society and a culture. Once we learn to honor and respect the weaker sex, be it man or woman, we contribute to cultivating a true sense of civilization.

This book helps the reader plumb the depths of his or her own fear, anger, shock and sense of betrayal about uninvited sexual advances. It also documents the kindness, caring and compassion that comes forth to heal oneself and others. Uttaro emphasizes the healing process and several survivors tell their stories. No matter how you’ve been harmed, the standout chapter on forgiveness is a totem for the new millennium.

Rape scars you psychically and the healing begins with thawing out from numb. It’s a lifetime process and is its own kind of hell. The strongest survivors turn the experience into material for growth. This book will help you be a better listener. Rape is one of the hottest behavioral triggers we have – from war booty to debasing women to victimizing weaker people. The fact is, the sex act got us here; it would be nice to keep it sacred. Potential rapists need to ask: Why bother? What for fifteen minutes of glory do I endure a lifetime of shame?

As one survivor says: “The current of sexual violence and rape culture runs much deeper through the texture of our lives than we have yet to discuss. And we need to discuss it in order to fight it. Our voices are incredibly important; our stories are incredibly important.”

Education, awareness and sensitivity are the keys to our evolution. Read this book and you’ll learn how to listen to, believe and validate a survivor. I’d like to see Uttaro’s book as required reading in a college freshman orientation. Then, perhaps, the shame and suffering of rape might never again scar the halls of higher education. I’d like the NFL to give free copies away at football games, to celebrate the Super Bowl, which is the number one day for reports of spousal abuse.

So guys, remember, life is a game best played with your whole heart not just the back of your hand. Five stars to Robert Uttaro; a universe of stars to all the survivors. All the best to you, dear readers!