FRIENDS TO LOVERS

This week is "Friends & Lovers" week. All of my posts will center around that central theme.

Today I'm sharing snippets of the love lives of some people who enjoy beautiful marriages today. I'll start with my own...

SOUL MATES...it was their destiny to be. The first one that you opened up to and shared your most intimate secrets, and deepest fears shortly after meeting, you knew they were the one.

Confused, no direction, frightened of her own shadow, not having a voice of her own, and lacking insight. That was me in 1995. I will never forget the year that I met my husband, Marvin, or Marvelous as I like to call him. We worked together in separate departments at a large clothing store and became close friends over the course of the next six months. It was a beautiful friendship, which would eventually blossom into a wonderful love affair. I trusted him like I had never trusted another.

After getting to know him over those next 6 months, I decided one day to let him know where we stood. Women were crazy about him and I had to stake my claim. Very short and to the point it went something like this:

Me: You know I'm your woman right?

Him: No...I didn't know that.

Me: Well I am.

We've been together every since. We married seven years after being in a relationship and we will celebrate 12 years of marriage this year. The Lord has blessed us with 4 children (2 we brought into the marriage & 2 we had in the relationship) and 2 grandchildren.  


Nineteen years later after we started dating and he has helped me to gain understanding and shown me guidance, he has taught me to be afraid of nothing, showed me how to project my voice, helped mold my perspective, and allowed me to become empowered by understanding the power of Holy Spirit within me. - Chelle Ramsey


FRIENDS BEFORE LOVERS...some of the people that I connected with state that they have known their spouses many years and were long-time friends before getting married.

"I've known my wife since I was in 3rd grade. She lived four houses away from me. We lost contact for many years and then reconnected when I was 28. Got married a year later."
-Emanuel Carpenter.

"Met mine in high school. We hooked up after our 10 yr reunion. A year later we married. 18yrs." -LaShaunda Hoffman


"My husband & I met when we were 12 and 14. We dated off and on for many years, when we
were 22 and 25 we had a daughter. When she was a year he moved to Florida!! In 99 he tried to get me & the kids to move down here, but I was married...we ended up losing contact. In July 2010 we found each other on FB, started talking & realized that spark was still there, by Nov 2010 the kids and I moved down here and we married 4th of July 2012 never been happier. I didn't finally find my true love...I had him all along, I just finally got smart and kept him in my life!!!!!"
-Traci Gressler Estes





WHIRLWIND ROMANCES...other people that I connected with shared that they only knew their spouses a short time before getting married.

"...only six months and we were engaged. Six months later, we were married and that was 33years ago. I was only 20."
- Barbara Joe Williams




"We bumped into each other on the street. Perfect strangers. He asked for my number, I said no. He asked for my name, and I told him, LaQuette. He tracked me down 3 days later on MySpace.

After 4 months of biding his time as my "friend," (I wasn't willing to entertain anything else, was enjoying being single for the first time in my life, and getting to know each other, he proposed. He was so smooth that I hadn't even realized I was in a relationship. But when he asked me, even though we hadn't been a couple (at least in my mind anyway), I knew it was right and said yes.

Best decision of my life. 7 years together, 6 years married, 2 beautiful children. He wakes up everyday with one goal in mind, making all of my dreams come true. How can you not love a man like that?"
-LaQuette





COMPUTER LOVE...social media played a large part in another person's marriage:

"It was the era of Black Planet...before Facebook was...everything. I was a freshman in college when we met online. He was self employed and a young single father. I was 19, he was 22. He will tell you that he knew the moment he saw my photograph that I was his. Me on the other hand...not so much. In fact, I liked someone else when we first met. I told him that I wasn't dating, but there was someone that had the potential of becoming more. He respected that and we merely talked as friends. The more we talked, the more I enjoyed him. At one point he told me, 'You know...you're gonna fall in love with me.' I told him he was crazy. Long story short a few weeks later we were dating and I was absolutely in love with him. Eight months later we were married at the courthouse during my college fall break. I finished the semester and relocated so we could live together. We now have three kids a dog, and will be celebrating our tenth anniversary this year."
-Te` Russ

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WRITING MY DREAMS,

CHELLE RAMSEY