Suicidal Thoughts? Questioning Phase Series III

Reaching out to children who are suicidal is a large task, but someone has to do it, so why not YOU.

Those who aren’t skilled in this area are at a loss for words and interactive strategies. When caught in this stage, we’re left having to think quickly, but cautiously.

 

We must first learn what suicidal stage the person may be in prior to determining the questioning stage (if there is time).

 

If there IS time, we must also learn how to question a child who has suicidal intentions.

 

I am not sure if asking directly about suicidal attempts is always good for ALL children and/or situations, but getting right to the point may “be a good call” for some children depending on where they are within this phase. If so, just “go for it” and ask the question – “Are you thinking about suicide?”

 

If you need a more subtle “walking on egg shell” attempt, you may try these questions/phrases:

I’ve noticed you don’t talk a lot here lately. What’s going on? What’s on your mind?
I’ve noticed you aren’t eating your food like you use to. How are you feeling?
I’ve noticed you aren’t hanging out with your friends here lately. What’s going on? How is …. doing? (Ask questions about each friend and your child’s relationship with each).
I’ve noticed you aren’t going outside to play. Has anything happened we need to talk about?
What happened to your beautiful smile, I haven’t seen it lately?
Tell me. Is there something on your mind?
How are things going with…….? (Select a recent topic you are aware of) Is there something I need to know? How can I help you with this issue?
I know about ………. (if you need to let your child realize you found out about something) Let’s talk about it, okay?
Do you feel sometimes there isn’t much hope?
Do you feel like giving up, or hurting yourself?
Have you ever done something so embarrassing you felt like you wanted to kill yourself? We can get through it because nothing is that bad, trust me.
Do you ever feel like you’ve made a mistake that got you so angry you want to give up? Let’s talk about it.
Do you ever think about what life would be like for your family, siblings, if you weren’t around? Let’s talk about how important you are to the family.
Have you ever gone to bed thinking you don’t ever want to wake up?

 

Note: Always let your child realize the important role they play in your life and the life of your family.

When children are suicidal, there are usually signs, however subtle. The child is very sad and more than likely wants your attention. Children want to know their self-worth. Let us hear their cry.

 

Illustration: Compliments of Kelly A. Vasquez

7th Grade Performing Arts Students, 12/2014

Art Piece Title: Tear Drops