YOU ARE A SLUT (no seriously, you, over there, to the left)
So. Tatum O'Shea is a BIG SLUT.
Such a horrible thing!
Only ..., is it?
I never thought of that as a bad thing about her. Just as Jameson's sadistic bedroom fetishes aren't part of what's wrong with him, I don't think Tate's sexual appetite is something that's wrong with her. She glories in her sexuality. Embraces it. She likes to have sex, cause hey, sex feels good.
And it's not like she has it with just anyone who comes along - in the books, she turns down several opportunities, despite the fact that she and Jameson are in an open relationship. Despite the fact that he himself continues sleeping with other women, regularly.
Yet it is assumed that since she's a slut, she must hate herself.
It's amazing to me that we as women have this opinion of our own sexuality. To want to enjoy sex and enjoy it with multiple partners, of your own free will and choice, is a bad, dirty thing, apparently.
Yet most of the men in these books - and in real life! - can have sex with almost anything that moves, and it's just being a playboy.
Talk about your double standards! Which I expect from men, cause hey, I'm sexist in my own ways.
But it still surprises me from women.
Yes, Tate is unhappy with herself, but not necessarily because of her promiscuity. You will have to read Reparation to find out more about that, as it's in there. There are a lot of other reasons for her to be upset with herself. Bad life choices, low self esteem that is a result of a childhood spent with parents who didn't love or understand her.
I am not a slut. I have only had sex with one person in my entire life - my husband. But I don't think there's anything wrong with someone who is or someone who wants to be.
Just as I don't think there's anything wrong with open relationships or polyamory. Or orgies or communes or sister-wives.
As long as it's honest and it's consensual, why not just let people be who they want to be? Some people like to don plush animal costumes and get it on that way - more power to you. Tatum likes to have a lot of sex.
As long as you're happy and you're not hurting anyone, it's all good.
... well, unless they want to be hurt, and then that's okay, too ;D
Such a horrible thing!
Only ..., is it?
I never thought of that as a bad thing about her. Just as Jameson's sadistic bedroom fetishes aren't part of what's wrong with him, I don't think Tate's sexual appetite is something that's wrong with her. She glories in her sexuality. Embraces it. She likes to have sex, cause hey, sex feels good.
And it's not like she has it with just anyone who comes along - in the books, she turns down several opportunities, despite the fact that she and Jameson are in an open relationship. Despite the fact that he himself continues sleeping with other women, regularly.
Yet it is assumed that since she's a slut, she must hate herself.
It's amazing to me that we as women have this opinion of our own sexuality. To want to enjoy sex and enjoy it with multiple partners, of your own free will and choice, is a bad, dirty thing, apparently.
Yet most of the men in these books - and in real life! - can have sex with almost anything that moves, and it's just being a playboy.
Talk about your double standards! Which I expect from men, cause hey, I'm sexist in my own ways.
But it still surprises me from women.
Yes, Tate is unhappy with herself, but not necessarily because of her promiscuity. You will have to read Reparation to find out more about that, as it's in there. There are a lot of other reasons for her to be upset with herself. Bad life choices, low self esteem that is a result of a childhood spent with parents who didn't love or understand her.
I am not a slut. I have only had sex with one person in my entire life - my husband. But I don't think there's anything wrong with someone who is or someone who wants to be.
Just as I don't think there's anything wrong with open relationships or polyamory. Or orgies or communes or sister-wives.
As long as it's honest and it's consensual, why not just let people be who they want to be? Some people like to don plush animal costumes and get it on that way - more power to you. Tatum likes to have a lot of sex.
As long as you're happy and you're not hurting anyone, it's all good.
... well, unless they want to be hurt, and then that's okay, too ;D
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Teresa
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Nov 17, 2014 09:41PM
I love how Tate embraces her sexuality- even when it hurts. ;)
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I don't like slutish behavior, male, female, other. However, your story was the first time ever that it felt "right". I wouldn't have expected it to go any other way and Tate's behavior didn't feel bad or irresponsible. I thought at first maybe it was me becoming desensitized. But no, I've read others and again I'm thinking, "no, bad choice. Selfish, unthinking, inconsiderate. Etcetera ". Reread your two books and was right back to "that makes sense". I love how you are handling this relationship. Tate is developing as a character, into a strong person. She has room for learning and I think she will, Jamison to.As far as gender inequality goes. Well yah, historically, biologically, sociologically, females pay a higher price than males for loose behavior. It's like karma has made us the "keepers" of safe sex.
Love, love your writing!
