“My dad’s out of rehab now and he claims that he’s sober and...

“My dad’s out of rehab now and he claims that he’s sober and he’s even got my name tattooed on his arm which is kind of weird. He came up to me on the street recently and asked why I would never talk to him or answer his calls. He said that I’m selfish and that my mother has brainwashed me.”
“So why don’t you want to talk to him?”
“Because I know that a phone call will turn into an afternoon, and an afternoon will turn into every weekend, and I don’t want him to influence me until I’ve figured out who I am as a person. l don’t want to spend time with him until I have the ‘umph’ to create this presentation of everything that’s happened, present it to him, and say: ‘This is what you did.’”