Generation Gap?

My daughter is 36 years younger than me. At times I look at her and am astonished by how similar we are, down to and including thoughts occurring at virtually the same moment. In many ways, she is the female version of me.

Her tastes in some things, however, are quite different, as you would expect.
But not music. In this area we are again, surprisingly alike. A little over a year ago, she asked me “Hey Dad, you ever hear of the Black Veil Brides? (BVB) They’re pretty good!”

I told her that I had not, but that I would give them a listen. I watched a little online video of the band, with her, and she said, almost apologetically, “They’re kinda glam. People dislike them because of that.”

I was incredulous. Who gives a flying damn about how a musician DRESSES? Bought the album, burned a copy (for my personal use, in my personal vehicle) and began to listen to this (according to daughter) “!@#in awesome band!” I was commuting about two hours a day, pretty much the perfect amount of time to listen to the album twice. A day. For a month.

My mind was completely blown. You know how once in a while, you are pleasantly surprised to find more than a couple of good songs on an album? THIS album was pure wall of sound yummy goodness. Song after song, lyrical crescendos, epic guitar licks . . . furious bass and drum lines, and . . . WTF is this? A VIOLIN? In a ROCK album? This masterpiece was both Wretched and Divine, and it reminded me of another favorite rock opera album, The Wall.

I can say out of pure belief and conviction that the Brides have the musical depth and breadth to be as big as Floyd, or bigger. That they believe in entertaining their fans with a real show, including makeup and effects a la classic arena rockers does not bother me one bit, because that is what they ARE.

Fast forward a bit. Crafty daughter convinces dad to buy Warped tour tickets “Because the Brides will be there! They ALWAYS do the tour!” So . . . many awesome bands to see, just not BVB. Crafty dad is disappointed, but resolves to see them live if at all possible. Miracles are real, and now the Crafty family will be seeing a live BVB show together. A 13 year old, and a 48 year old. A female and a male. A daughter and her father. So no generation gap there.

Thanks kid, for bringing this slice of awesome to me. For reminding me that rock and roll is NOT dead, and that it exists somewhere besides zombie studios, being tracked by machines and soulless “musicians.” This musical epiphany that we have had and shared has bonded us in a way that so rarely happens in these days of teenage angst and “adult” apathy.

Carpe diem.
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Published on October 31, 2013 05:20 Tags: black-veil-brides, bvb, tour
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message 1: by GingerSnaps (new)

GingerSnaps Allen I also have a (nearly) 13 year old daughter who loves bvb. And this year will finally see us going to one of their shows together. Thank you for offering proof that the fanbase is made of real peoplw of all walks of life! We can help break those stereotypes and open the door for more people to give this awesome band a chance!


message 2: by John (last edited Jan 26, 2015 06:20AM) (new)

John David GingerSnaps wrote: "I also have a (nearly) 13 year old daughter who loves bvb. And this year will finally see us going to one of their shows together. Thank you for offering proof that the fanbase is made of real people of all walks of life!"

You are very welcome! I talk to people about BVB all the time, last one was at Hot Topic of all places a few days ago. I had asked an EMPLOYEE what he thought of the band . . . .

Him: "Who?"

Me: "You know, those guys whose MERCH is all over your walls?"

Him: "Uh, those are those guys that wear all that makeup, like Kiss? I'm not really into them."

Me:
"So, have you heard any of their music?"

Him:
"No, but I . . . ."

I didn't hear any more of what he said after that, (I stopped listening) because how can you KNOW that you DON'T like a band that you have NEVER heard?

You are CORRECT about the fanbase. I have been to a few shows with darling daughter, usually it's all "screaming tweens" if you know what I mean. But at the BVB show in Orlando, I actually felt like a real fan amongst my peers, rather than that "weird old guy" LOL. Look in my twitter pics, check out the Orlando crowd just before the show . . .

BTW, Loved the movie by your twitter handle name. Redheads and Werewolves? A must see lol!

You will epically enjoy the show. BVB knows how to entertain and bring the noise. For one brief moment in time, your daughter will look at you and see the "Coolest Mom on Earth." And for that brief moment . . . you will FEEL like that.

-John


message 3: by GingerSnaps (new)

GingerSnaps Allen I always look forward to those "coolest mom on earth" moments. My husband took her to warped tour this past Summer and I envied him for it, but I think that BVB will surpass that! And it's One of those magical unicon moments when my daughter and I like the same things! I will check out your twitter pics and will follow. Also, Thanks. Ginger Snaps was a great movie!


message 4: by John (new)

John David GingerSnaps wrote: "I always look forward to those "coolest mom on earth" moments. My husband took her to warped tour this past Summer and I envied him for it, but I think that BVB will surpass that! And it's One of ..."

Yes. BVB changes the entire equation, at least for me and drummer daughter @batmanprobably. We will grab as much video and audio to share with fans as possible!


message 5: by GingerSnaps (new)

GingerSnaps Allen That show was amazing! And in an interesting twist, well, interesting to me, it looks like I may be able to take her to Warped Tour this summer to see them a second time!! There were moments that she didn't know songs off the knew album and turned to find me singing along and there was a light of pride in her eyes, like, "That's MY mom!" Here's to those moments we get to be coolest parents on Earth and get to have FUN doing it!


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