ACTIONS REALLY DO SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS_WOMAN UP THREE

http://stockshop.wordpress.com/page/5/Our "Woman Up" series is back! In our previous two series we discussed how important it is for women to own up to our responsibilities of how we're portrayed in society and the impact it has on our daughters and younger generations.

Today, let's take another glimpse at ways we can woman up. My husband has a saying that "we're role models, whether we like it or not." I've never seen this more true than as I watch my daughter. I grew up in a time where we were taught to do as I say, not as I do. Well we can preach that all day long, but the message doesn't quite hit home. In more ways than one through the years I have realized some of the things I've done and the things I said, sounded just like my mother. They weren't always pleasant or good. Yet, these attitudes that I picked up came directly from her and I struggle with dropping them off at the wayside, because it's an inherent part of who I've become. And she often told me that she was the mother, and I was the child. Hmmm, that message was heard, but not received.

It's the same way today with my own daughter. I sometimes I cringe as I witness her carry out some of my attitudes or actions. Then as I correct her, I have to recall that she's only emulating what she's been taught by yours truly. At that point I have to take on the responsibility for what I've created. How? I have to reverse everything by changing my attitudes and actions. I have to discuss with her why I did or said certain things and admit that I was wrong for handling things in a certain manner. I explain to her why we should uphold a different attitude and the results for not doing so vs. the outcomes of changing our attitudes.

It wasn't always easy to admit that I was wrong. As a matter-of-fact, I started with the same attitude my mother held, I'm the adult and you're the child. That was the worst approach that I could take and when my husband told me so...I disagreed. Unfortunately for me, it developed a series of bad habits that are so hard to break within my daughter. As my husband also said, we have to be careful because children watch their parents and take on their attitudes, but then they put their own little switch on it. And you can't account for their perspective or outcome of their little twist.

As a woman I have come to learn there is nothing wrong with admitting I'm wrong. There's nothing wrong with humbling myself and having open conversations about my faults with my children. Had I done so earlier, my children wouldn't be carrying the burden of my backwards perspective on child rearing, or being a woman.

Being a woman doesn't mean, do as I say and not as I do. Being a woman doesn't come with making a strong stance that I'm right and you're wrong. And it definitely doesn't mean that my way is the only way. No, being a woman means that I am not afraid to humble myself and admit when I'm wrong. Being a woman means that I can learn from my children as they learn from me. And being a woman, means that I trust my husband's words, respect them, and adhere to his advice when he gives me words of wisdom.


Missed the first two posts? The links are below...

http://www.writingmydreams.com/2014/09/its-time-to-woman-uptalk-about-it.html

http://www.writingmydreams.com/2014/09/woman-up-iitalk-about-it-tuesday.html

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