About Being Shy

About Being Shy:

ittygittydiddynator:

gailsimone:

gailsimone:

Every big con I go to, no matter how many people I meet or signings I do, I invariably hear later from people who said they were too shy to come up and say hello.

I just want to speak to that for a second.

First, I am not judging you. You go at your comfort level and don’t let…

In which Tamora Pierce is in the same boat…

If it helps, I mean I’m no celebrity or anything, except maybe like by proxy through VM, but I totally feel the stuff here. I’m really nervous an anxious about meeting people, so a lot of the time am really quiet and secluded, because I hate feeling like I’m imposing myself, or bothering people. Also, to this day, I still have trouble processing and accepting compliments, because I don’t feel I’ve done anything to warrant them, and don’t want people to think they need to praise me.

This also goes along with that other post, where it was mentioned that some people hide their shyness by being loud and boisterous. Really, I do a bit of both, depending on the situation, or like the size of crowd I’m working with, so sometimes I’m a quiet wallflower, and others I’m cracking all the jokes to put others at ease, though inside I’m freaking out and beating myself up.

But, I’ve come to realize that this is the only way to find people you click with, ones who get you and won’t judge you for how you handle things, and will beat down the ones who do judge and mistreat you, and that’s wonderful.

I’m still not over feeling like a bother, even to my close friends, but you learn how to cope.

So, if you want to meet and express to someone who you look up to at a con just how much they matter to you, then please try to go for it. As long as you’re respectful with it, and respect their boundaries and stuff, all should be good. They’re there to share this stuff with you, and you will make their efforts worth it. And, who knows, you may end up meeting a kindred spirit or two, and end up helping each other.

Do what works for you, darlings, and know you’re worth it, and you are not alone.

See?

Even the real Vengeance Moth agrees.