The Number One Reason You’re Not Living Out a Big Dream

Wow! It’s been an interesting month. I wrote about booking contracts with companies, and landing articles on large websites like the Huffington Post. I shared a lot of information you can use to grow your online business to where it can support your family.

Here’s the thing though, there are people who read all those posts, and won’t do anything about it because of fear. Fear is the number reason many people don’t chase or make big dreams their reality.

I can completely relate because for 12 years I let fear hold me back. I was afraid of change, I was afraid of taking action. I let that fear talk me out of a lot of big decisions.

Even when this business supported my family, I still gave into fear. I was afraid I wasn’t a good enough writer, so I only sent guest posts to smaller websites. I was afraid I didn’t have any “credentials” so I didn’t coach.

I was afraid I didn’t have anything to teach or that people wouldn’t take me seriously so I didn’t approach any companies. I was afraid of my own shadow. AAAHHH!!! I was afraid that my content wasn’t as good as the A-Listers. I figured since they had so many fans and followers, why bother.

I know there are some reading this that can relate. We let our fear keep us back for going after big opportunities that we can totally get! For two years I ignored the Huffington Post even though it was always a dream.

Fear is holding you back from incredible opportunities to grow your business. If you can’t get over those fears, you’ll never make your dream your reality.

Fear is usually stupid

Most of the time we’re afraid of things we don’t really need to be afraid of. If you try to do something, and it doesn’t work out, so what? Life still continues on, and more than likely that isn’t going to be the only opportunity that you have.

Most fears are usually over dumb things that can be quickly dismissed if we step back from the situation. Yes, there are some valid concerns, but not really anything you need to be afraid of.

Stop letting fear win. Realize that everyone fails, even the “greats.” The people who are successful in life have determined that no matter how many times they’ve fall, they’re going to get back up! Be that person.

Nothing is impossible

It may be scary, and it may be outside of your comfort zone to chase these big dreams, but realize all of your dreams are possible. They may not happen overnight, and it’s going to take some hard work, but you can do it.

We live in an incredible time with amazing opportunities all around us. Everything you need to make your dream a reality is right in front of you. We have amazing technology that makes this all possible, especially if you have an online dream.

The message that I want you to take away from this month’s posts is that if you want to build a business that supports your family, you can. More than that, it’s not going to take as long as you think.

You may realize it, but fear may be buried deep inside, you have to get real with yourself. Verbalize that fear and start working on getting over it.

One of the best things I did to deal with my fear was connect with an amazing group of friends. They were there for me as I chased huge life changes, and are the main reason my fear didn’t win.

If you don’t have a group like that, you need to create one or join an existing group. That support will push you past your fear and help you realize your true potential.

My prayer is that many of you make your dreams a reality by the end of this year. I want you to land those big articles, and book company contracts. I want you to do everything that you think isn’t possible.

P.S. I wrote a little rant on Facebook after I wrote this post. I thought it would be fitting to add it here:

I wrote an article the other day for the Huffington Post. As expected there were many comments. The one comment that you see and one that we here a lot from people in general is “it’s only been four months, I hope it works out for them.”

My first response is ME TOO! However, what if it doesn’t? What if we crash, and burn, and have to move back to Wisconsin? My answer is SO WHAT! If it doesn’t work out at least I’ll come to the end of my life with NO regrets. Years later we’ll tell our grand children about the time grandma and grandpa moved to Hawaii and we’ll all have a good laugh.

Too often we let the fear of failure hold us back from living an amazing life, and most of the time it’s not justified. If your dream is to be a bull fighter, that’s one thing, but if your dream is a better job, moving to a new place, losing weight and so on, what’s the worse that could happen?

So what if you fall flat on your face, get back up and keep pushing forward. The worse thing you can do is let fear or the negative voices of others keep you from your dreams. My father died suddenly with regret in his heart and he begged me not to do the same. If Hawaii doesn’t work out we’ll do what we have to do, but we won’t have the regret of an unfilled dream in our heart. Don’t let the people who say “I hope it works out” keep you from living the life that they will only dream about living. Chase that dream and die empty.

I’ve given you what I know this month. The ball is now in your court. What are you going to do with it? Name one place you’re sending or sent an article to? Name one company you’re going to book consulting at? 

P.S. Monday registration closes for Dixie and my new four-week class. We have a great group already, but would love to see you there. Details here 

P.P.S. Every week I have four articles for other large websites, here’s this weeks articles:

Women aren’t the only ones who get insecure about their bodies

Mind Body Green

5 reasons not to waste your money on Internet marketing courses (This caused a stir)

Entrepreneur Magazine

7 lessons quitting a job I hated taught me about life

Huffington Post

10 lies guys need to stop telling themselves

Good Men Project