Emotional outsourcing: Why structural approaches to jealousy management fail

Earlier this summer, a writer who goes by the pen name Elizabeth Sternpublished an article inSalontitled “Jealous of what? Solving polyamory’s jealousy problem.” Franklin and I wrote the following as a response.

Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?

—Proverbs 27:4

Elizabeth Stern has hit the polyamory jackpot. She has two loving, secure partners who are highly compatible not just with her, but with each other. The two loves of her life like each other, share in...