11 ‘rules’ of seduction (for the creative badass)

True seduction is meeting the person where they already are, then leading them to a place where they didn’t know they wanted to go.

True seduction doesn’t involve pick-up lines. It is not one-size-fits-all.

True seduction involves the ability to see things from another person’s perspective, get inside their head, find points of genuine connection.

True seduction is about creating an experience for the other person that surprises and ultimately satisfies. Exploitation is about taking something from them, and ends in lack and regret.

Great storytelling is the best seduction of all.

Voltaire once said that the difference between conquest and seduction is that everybody wants, on some level, to be seduced.

True seduction involves the gift of artful and focused attention. We become what we see in others. We become what others see and call forth from deep in us.

True seduction involves a dance of ache and pleasure: it’s the power of contrast that makes us feel alive.

True seduction knows that there is an art to anticipation, and that every destination is part of a bigger journey.

True seduction is not about possession. It is about the ways we learn and know the world outside of ourselves. It is a slow descent through layers of mystery.

True seduction knows, and respects, that desire is subversive. Desire shows you who you are — and not what they told you to be.