Do You Take Relationship Advice?

One client of mine told me a story about how he learned a lesson the hard way when he neglected to take advice he had asked for. He was getting the message that the person he was dating was unresponsive (translation: unavailable) and he had to make a decision about going away with this person for a long weekend. As the departure date came closer, he was feeling more and more uncomfortable, because the person he was going with was slow to answer questions about the trip-or didn't get back to him at all. He started to wonder if going away for the weekend was a good idea. Finally, in desperation, he asked a trusted friend for advice.

But the answer he got from his friend was not what he wanted to hear: the friend advised him not to go away with this person for the weekend.

Now, it just so happened that this person the man was thinking of going away with was very attractive, successful, and alluring. And, in addition, for some reason the man was completely "hooked in" in ways he couldn't describe or understand. Ignoring his friend's advice, he decided to go on the trip with the person he fancied.

What ended up happening was that the person was very uncommunicative with the man, consistently sent mixed messages throughout the weekend, and ended up leaving the resort a day early.

My client told me later that he wished he had heeded his own internal signals telling him something was up with his travel partner, wished he had taken his friend's advice, and wished he didn't always have to learn the hard way in relationships.

If you are feeling at the end of your rope with a potential partner and need some advice, really think about whether or not you would be able to take it if it didn't match your desires. If not, you may want to check out my website www.theemotionallyavailablepartner.com for more information.

You deserve a wonderful, fulfilling relationship with an emotionally available partner who is crazy about you. And that partner is waiting for you!