From the Perspective of A Reader

 


moral-dilemma-empathic-concernShortly before A Fitting Place came out, a friend asked how I would measure the book’s success.


My answer was unhesitating: I wanted it to prompt readers to re-examine the way in which we all make relationship choices.  I hoped that A Fitting Place would:



give readers more empathy and understanding—for themselves and for others—of the way in which circumstances, habitual behavior patterns, and societal stereotypes influence the relationships that we choose, and
recognize that every relationship reflects a series of choices that we could have made differently, and that we can change if we ourselves are willing to change and grow.

My first clue that I might achieve my goal came one day last week when a middle-aged acquaintance said, in passing, “I loved your book. But I have to tell you, I wouldn’t have read it if I’d known what it was about.”


Straining to keep my jaw from dropping, I asked, “Why did you read it?”


Sailing Down the Moonbeam was wonderful.  So I bought this when it came out. I never checked to see what it was about.”


My reader went on to say that her religious objections to homosexuality had stopped her from ever thinking about the emotional dynamics of a same sex relationship. When she realized what the book was about, she almost put it down.  “But I had to keep reading. I had to know what happened to Lindsey.”


As the conversation continued, she noted that, unlike Lindsey, she’d had multiple sources of emotional support in the wake of her own failed marriage. But now, my reader could empathize with someone who was emotionally bereft.  “Lindsey was reaching out for a relationship that was supportive and nurturing. I could understand that. It made me realize,” she said, “that I needed to be open to alternative ways of dealing with life.”


I had a virtually identical conversation with a woman in her 70’s a few days later.


I was fortunate that both women were willing to speak so openly with me.  From the book clubs I’ve met with so far, I know they are not the first readers to object to the same sex love affair on religious or social grounds.  But they were the first to acknowledge that A Fitting Place pushed them to think differently and even empathetically.  And because these two women were willing to “step outside their comfort zone,” they understood that A Fitting Place was about relationships, not about sex.


On a related note, I’ve had a lot of readers—and reviewers— refer to A Fitting Place as “a page turner” or say that “I couldn’t put it down.”  To my delight, I’ve heard repeated stories of readers who planned to peruse “just one more chapter,” but stayed up into the wee small hours or went to work late in order to finish the book.


A Fitting Place seems to be a good read as well as a thought-provoking book.


For a writer, that has to count as success!


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message 1: by Betsy (new)

Betsy Fasbinder I find this notion of what "success" for an author might mean an intriguing one. What a wise friend who asked you this. Since I've published my first book, I've gotten, "How many books have you sold?" "Is it making lots of money?" and "Wow, if they make a movie of your book, that would be successful." And while I naturally hope that my book sells well, I've realized in the publication process that "success" has many facets. Like you, I feel that success has to do with the readers' experiences. For me, I feel successful when someone has read my story, is moved by it, and feels as though they've been somehow changed by the story. I never knew that this was "success" for me until I began getting letters from readers.


message 2: by Mary (new)

Mary Gottschalk Betsy ... thanks for the supportive vote on "content" rather than numbers. I have recommended your book to my book club because -- six months after reading it--I still think about Kate and Jake and the conflict they tried to manage. They were human ... they were inspirational ... they were people I wanted to know and know about.

That is what I wish for with A Fitting Place ... that people would remember Lindsey and Joan.

I don't care how many books I sell.


message 3: by Betsy (new)

Betsy Fasbinder I take it as a supreme compliment that you've recommendation my book to your book club, Mary. It's big deal, to recommend a book, isn't it? We're asking our friends to spend 8,10,12 hours on something that we feel is worthwhile. I don't do that unless I'm really in love with a book. I'm honored!

I began A Fitting Place last night and can't wait to get my "chores" done today so that I can get back to it.


message 4: by Mary (new)

Mary Gottschalk I shall look forward to your comments on AFP when you've read it ...


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