From Book 9 on Love

"Do you think he loves you?"

She hesitated. "I think he does. But I guess this makes me wonder if he really does. Or if he loves only some part of me that's the part he's always seen when he sees me. Or if it's worse than that, and the thing he loves isn't really me. It looks like me, you know, but it isn't really me. It's some fantasy version of me that he's invented because he can't really handle the real me."
She had just put into words the thing that I had been afraid to put into words. I had been married over thirty years, and I wondered the same thing.

Of course, to be fair, Kurt and Brad might justly wonder that. Maybe we humans were incapable of actually loving each other fully in this mortal world. Maybe we were incapable of bearing the full sight of the reality of each other, and so we saw only what we could see. Mormons believed that you had to be transformed into something greater than mortal stuff in order to bear the sight of God as Joseph Smith had, as other prophets in the Bible had.