Can 36 Questions Bring You Closer?

PsychologyToday.com posted a piece that claims to help you “(g)et to know someone and create a sense of intimacy, in as little as an hour.” It’s a set of 36 questions created to be the catalyst for deep conversation. Really, I can get closer to my wife in just forty-five minutes? Thought I’d give it a go.

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I was surprised because some of the questions really elicited a long, deep response from the two of us. There were things on there that we really hadn’t talked about before like, “Of anyone in the world, who would we want as a dinner guest?” and “As a 90-year old, would you prefer having the mind or the body of a 30 year old?”

Yet, many of the questions just weren’t for a married couple who have communicated for over a quarter of a century: “What does friendship mean to you?” or “What roles do love and affection play in your life?”

It reminded me of he book, The Book of Questions, which was originally published in 1987. Same thing with this list, some good questions, others that I might just pass over.

All in all, it was a decent activity. On a scale of one through ten, I’d give it a six. Yet, if my wife and I were just dating or had been newly married, I think this list of questions would really have scored higher. Take a look at it. Set aside forty-five minutes or so. Print up the piece. Get comfy and ask away.