Struggling with Authenticity? Read this.

Episode 60: Rewriting Our Stories wit... Kind & Creative #6

Struggling with Authenticity? Read this.

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I used to really struggle with authenticity; I had no idea what it meant to “just be myself”, what it felt like to be truly authentic, and felt all kinds of doubt and fear around whether being “myself” was even OK.

When it comes to abstract concepts like authenticity, we can experience a divide between head and heart. After all, most of us know what authenticity means on an intellectual level; it means being ourselves, living our values, showing up in a way that is natural, genuine, and whole-hearted, etc.

We can study authenticity until the cows come home, have a deep intellectual understanding, and still feel lost on an emotional and experiential level, unable to put that intellectual understanding into practice.

A few weeks ago, someone shared this poem on Facebook and I wanted to share it here with you today, because to me it bridges that gap between head and heart perfectly:

The Invitation by Oriah

It doesn’t interest me

what you do for a living.

I want to know

what you ache for

and if you dare to dream

of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me

how old you are.

I want to know

if you will risk

looking like a fool

for love

for your dream

for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me

what planets are

squaring your moon…

I want to know

if you have touched

the centre of your own sorrow

if you have been opened

by life’s betrayals

or have become shrivelled and closed

from fear of further pain.

I want to know

if you can sit with pain

mine or your own

without moving to hide it

or fade it

or fix it.

I want to know

if you can be with joy

mine or your own

if you can dance with wildness

and let the ecstasy fill you

to the tips of your fingers and toes

without cautioning us

to be careful

to be realistic

to remember the limitations

of being human.

It doesn’t interest me

if the story you are telling me

is true.

I want to know if you can

disappoint another

to be true to yourself.

If you can bear

the accusation of betrayal

and not betray your own soul.

If you can be faithless

and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty

even when it is not pretty

every day.

And if you can source your own life

from its presence.

I want to know

if you can live with failure

yours and mine

and still stand at the edge of the lake

and shout to the silver of the full moon,

“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me

to know where you live

or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up

after the night of grief and despair

weary and bruised to the bone

and do what needs to be done

to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me

who you know

or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stand

in the centre of the fire

with me

and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me

where or what or with whom

you have studied.

I want to know

what sustains you

from the inside

when all else falls away.

I want to know

if you can be alone

with yourself

and if you truly like

the company you keep

in the empty moments.

Now over to you: What do you want people to know about you? Leave a comment and let us know.

P.S. If you’d like to have more authentic conversations about things that really matter and to connect with like-minded kindred, I invite you to join The Tribe.