Ask Andrew - Preparation

Dear Andrew

In many of the MM romance books, a lot of time is spent with the "preparation". Is this fact or fiction?  Cuz I'll tell ya, if I hear one more, one finger, then two, then scissoring, I will SCREAM!
Thanks

Chutchy
Dear Chutchy

I have to tell you your question made me smile.  Because I hear you.  In fiction, the preparation is sometimes over described, but it's my opinion that authors are trying to be sensitive to real world facts.  Because in real life, preparation is of major importance. 

Ladies, I'm going to ask you to do something for me.  Tonight when you're in bed, lean over to your husband or boyfriend and tell him you have a hankering for anal sex and to just go for it.   You want it and you want it now.  If he takes you at your word, and let's hope he doesn't.  The first thing that's going to happen when he tries to enter you is you are going to scream and then claw his eyes out (ladies, please don't try this at home).  :)

Anal sex requires preparation, and the preparation, if done right, can be pleasurable and a wonderful part of foreplay.  I know that the one finger, two finger thing is a little predictable, and as authors it is our challenge to come up with alternate ways to describe preparation without it becoming tired.  In some cases I have read where the preparation wasn't skipped over, but mentioned, the way condom use is mentioned, and then the author moved on.  That was both refreshing and literarily accurate.

Hugs and Love
Andrew

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