Does an affair mean it’s the end of your marriage?

Hightlights from a teleclass I did with Tammy Nelson. You can purchase recordings of this class at her website: The New Monogamy; Love, Sex and Fidelity

Regarding infidelity, we look a lot at Prevention and Recovery. Let’s also consider meaning and motive for affairs. Why do people engage in Affairs; what was it they were looking for; yearning for; what was the meaning that it then takes on in their relationship?

Also consider that maybe not all affairs, by definition, destroy a relationship, but maybe they can offer a stabilizer. A way to stay married. For many people, the goal is to prevent dissolution of marriage. Some affairs serve to shake up a relationship, a powerful alarm system. But affairs can become a most powerful revitalizer. We have to invite coupleS to see what good can be taken out of this. The relationship you have may no longer be the relationship you will continue to have.

Most people in the West will have 2-3 relationships in our adult lives and some of us will do it with the same person. Revelation of an affair may put to rest your 1st marriage; do you want another one? It may not be the end of a marriage – rather, the end of a 1st marriage. Give hope – this affair is not the end of everything.