Too Soon?

A reader replies to this thread on faking orgasms:

Your reader wrote: “You really want to get people talking? Start a thread about people who come too fast instead of not at all.”

I’m one of those guys, sometimes. My wife likes to sneak off to the bathroom at work and send me naughty snaps when she’s wanting to have some naked fun time that night. She keeps me primed all day to the point that, when we finally get down to it, I’m so hot I pop in sometimes less than a minute.

This was a big problem for me for a long time, assuming that my wife wasn’t getting satisfaction from our sex life. I always went down on her before the actual sex, so I comforted myself knowing she was at least having an orgasm. Finally, I asked her about it just to clear the air, and I was the only one with an issue. She loved that I came so fast, when it happened. Knowing that SHE got me that hot, that it was HER that I was so excited about, it made it even better for her even when it was short. She did confess that, occasionally, she would be disappointed with the brevity, but not often enough for it to be an issue. Still, now that we’ve talked about it, if it happens, we just wait awhile for the batteries to recharge (with lots of cuddling and continuing foreplay) and go at it again. “Problem” solved.

Another can relate:

I am apparently a rare creature  – a woman who often comes “too early.”

I’m also one-and-done on orgasms, which my husband knows. So if it happens too soon, I fake that I’m not having an orgasm; I hide it. Definitely being a woman is an advantage here. I have sometimes then faked a later orgasm, but usually I just show enthusiasm up until my husband finishes, at which point he often asks if I came, and I assure him yes, because I did. Not a lie! He does not ask for details on timing. I justify this act on the basis that I do not want him to feel rushed. I’ve tried to adjust him to my speed, and I’ve tried to get him on board with moves that slow me down, but neither of those worked, so the act continues.

Another female reader ventures into new territory:

I am so happy to see other women writing in to say they are not able to have orgasms during normal sexual intercourse. I’m not happy for them but I’m happy to hear it is not just me. I spent most of my 20′s believing something was seriously wrong with me. I can get myself there, but no one else was able to. I don’t think it’s psychological for me. I don’t get all up in my head when I’m having sex. I can usually let go and enjoy it pretty well. I just never orgasm unless I take matters into my own hands, so to speak.

In my late 20′s I met a man who is now my husband. After many months of being intimate I agreed to let him try anal sex with me. I had tried it before, but it was painful and not anything I wanted to try again. We started slow but eventually got there. I orgasm every time. Every single time. But only during anal sex. I can’t get my vagina to operate normally (at least that is how it feels in my head), but at least my butt is on board. It’s something. I often wonder if there are other women out there that can’t hit the big “O” vaginally but can with anal penetration.