5 Tricks to Make You “Husband of the Month” While Chasing Your Dreams

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Is your dream all-consuming? Does your dream sometimes take your focus away from being the husband you were created to be? We all lose focus on what’s truly important now and then. The statement, “If Momma’s happy then everybody’s happy,” is so true. When my relationship with my wife is thriving , everything else in my life seems to fall into place.

In our marriages, nothing happens by accident. We need to, no we must, purposely find ways to surprise and encourage our wives if we want our relationships to grow. Ultimately, when our wives feel appreciated and special, they want to make us feel appreciated and special (wink, wink). Here are five tricks to make sure your wife feels appreciated and special even when you are chasing your dreams.

1: Write Her an Unexpected Note

Remember how you used to write letters to her when you were dating? She loved them then and she will love them even more now. This doesn’t have to be a long drawn out letter. Tell her what you appreciate about her. As a matter of fact, sometimes shorter notes have just as big an impact as love letters. Who knew that you were just a few sticky notes away from improving your marriage?

Write on a sticky note “I chose you and it was the best decision I ever made.” Place that sticky note on the bathroom mirror where she will see it first thing in the morning when she brushes her teeth. Another possibility is to write “I appreciate _______ on a sticky note,” Fill in the blank with whatever it is that you appreciate. Get creative and leave multiple notes spread around.

2: Have a Song Composed for Her

You can have a song composed and sung for $5. If you haven’t found www.fiverr.com yet, I highly recommend checking it out. You can get people to do just about anything you can dream of, from work related items to completely off-the-wall stuff, for only $5. Go on this website and search for “make a love song.” There you will find extremely talented people from all over the world who will compose and sing a song about your wife. They will then email a video that you can send her.

3: Do Unexpected Small Things

Here are a few examples that will hopefully get your mind thinking of other unique ways to do the unexpected. Before bed or in the morning, put toothpaste on her toothbrush for her. Have her coffee or tea ready for her in the morning. Make the bed. Draw her a hot bubble bath. Figure out little things she does for herself every day and do them for her.

4: Get Back to Basics

Remember what the two of you loved to do when you were dating and go do it. If it was dancing, then go dancing. If it was a picnic lunch, then go do it. If it was a motorcycle ride, then go do it. If it was a concert, then go to one. The same things you did to make her fall in love with you will make her love and appreciate you more. They may even lead her to fall in love with you again.

5: Show Her You Love Her

Begin to do more than you have ever done before. If she usually cleans the kitchen, then you do it every so often. If she usually makes breakfast for the kids, then you do it one morning. If she always cooks dinner, then you do it one night. If she usually takes the kids to school then you take them one morning. By giving more than you have ever given before, you will get back more peace, love and fulfillment than you have ever received before.

You Are The Thermostat

As a man who has been married for seventeen years, I understand that marriages have ebbs and flows. In most cases our actions, as husbands, are the thermostat that controls the temperature for our relationships with our wives and the temperament of our children. Realize how blessed you are to have your wife. Cherish her and all that she does for you and your family. Be a purposeful man of action who treasures his wife. If you will do these things, I promise that your wife and children will treasure you.

What Say You?

Together we can become the husbands we were created to be. In the comment section below, share your best trick that makes your wife feel special.

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