You So Stingy?

My mother-in-law, Lonna,  is not doing so well. She is dying. Though, as my husband likes to remind me, we're all dying. Her heart is just not functioning very well and it can stop at any moment. Lonna still has a bit if fight left in her and this situation can go on indefinitely.
We're all trying to help her, but we can't always figure out what she wants. She is a hard person to understand for a number of reasons. She has aphasia from a stroke nine years ago, and so she can't remember the correc