"I ended a 13 year relationship last year. It was emotionally...

"I ended a 13 year relationship last year. It was emotionally traumatic for me. I wanted to try to repair the relationship, but he thought it was irreparable. He ended it so suddenly. I was trying to show him affection one night, and he just said: ‘I can’t do this anymore.’ It hurt so badly. He could have been much more nuanced about it."
"Do you think it ultimately would have hurt more if he’d been more incremental about it?" 
"That’s hard to say. Though I did find a much better partner shortly after the breakup."