When It Comes To Men .... Does Size Really Matter?

Throughout the course of my years, I've known many more men than women who give this topic a great deal of thought, but perhaps maybe it’s time women started to ponder the same question with a vested interest in the possible outcome, because when it comes to searching for that ideal partner, absolutely nothing should be left to chance. Rather than simply throwing caution to the wind in hopes that everything will work out for the best in your most important relationship, perhaps it would be more prudent and wise to approach love with at least as much caution as you do when you make a major purchase like buying a home or an automobile.

In my spare time – which is becoming increasingly rare these days – I sometimes enjoy watching HGTV, and in particular, the house-hunter episodes wherein a couple endeavors to decide upon the place that will eventually become their next residence. In doing so, every conceivable option is weighed out and considered in terms of compatibility with respect to their current and future needs, from location to the overall square footage, the size of the kitchen, the closets and the backyard. Even the size of storage, basements and common areas, as well as bedrooms and baths plays an important role in deciphering whether a particular property ‘makes the grade’ or not. So why shouldn’t a woman consider the ‘size of a man’ just as important when trying to determine whether or not a relationship will correspond to her individual needs?

When I think back over the course of my various dangerous liaisons, if I had been a little more calculating and pragmatic from the start I could’ve ended up saving myself so much pain in the process. Therefore, now as I sit on the outside looking in, I’ve decided the wiser course of action is to see how a man ‘measures up’ before consenting to become serious about dating. The first thing I must put a tape to is just how big is his ego …. because if it’s too large then I should expect he will be far too focused on his own needs and agenda to become the least bit interested in mine, which can only lead to problems in the long run, especially when I have one of those days when I really need it to be ‘all about me’.

Then I will assess his current and future ambitions, or basically at what stage he resides on the career spectrum. If he has already achieved a level of success he is comfortable with and is ready to reap the fruits of his labor, then he’ll want to make time to start enjoying life in a broader sense. He might like to entertain or secretly be harboring a burning desire to travel to far off destinies that up until now he’s only had the time to daydream about between an endless succession of meetings, and the only missing component up to now has been the right traveling partner. Or he could still be climbing the corporate ladder, or starting his own business or even trying to secure a record deal, which should tell me his first priority is and for a long time to come will be his work, and if I’m not comfortable with that, then I should keep searching.

Then of course there’s overall character ….. is he patient? Kind? Understanding or judgmental? Does he possess the kind of inner strength capable of propping me up when I need him to without feeling the need to question why? Is he close to his family? Does he want children or even like them for that matter? Will he understand that sometimes he might find me in tears although I can’t exactly explain why except that I feel overwhelmed in my day-to-day? Will he push me away when I’m difficult or even worse just disappear, or will he have the courage to pull me close and say, “Everything’s going to be alright?”

I must also determine how he measures himself a man among men. Is he the kind of man who will care for the lawn, service the car and take out the trash without being hounded? Will he support my decisions and protect me from harm? Would he sooner throw himself in front of a speeding bus if it meant I would end up being okay?

And last – but certainly not least – I’ll need to determine the size of his heart and if it can withstand the kind of rigorous life that will naturally consume me as a woman when I'm trying to balance running a household with building a career and raising children, not to mention the dictates of maintaining a social calendar, being a good friend and one day caring for aging parents who become the second set of children whose needs I must place before my own? Will he cave in and give me the romance I deserve on those special days like birthdays, Christmas and Valentine’s Day, and sometimes going beyond even sometimes when I least expect it but truly need it?

When it comes to men, they tend to measure ‘everything’ about a woman within the first few instants of meeting her …. from her breasts size to her willingness to perform sexually. Is she tall? Is she pretty? Does she make me laugh? Will she make a good wife, or is she crazy? Although I think men are into the numbers game much more than women as a whole, overall they have probably been better at deciding what kind of woman fulfills their needs, which is maybe appropriate considering they are the ones who actually propose. However, if women could train themselves to become just as adept as men, then maybe we would all see more ‘happier couples’ in society who are truly invested in the lifespan of their partnership. Maybe divorce rates would go down for a change and better adjusted children would be the inevitable result. In the end it doesn’t really matter what your particular needs are so long as you’re willing to hold out for the one who meets them.

In terms of the way men tend to measure other men …. at least when they’re standing side-by-side at the urinals, I find that most men are beyond adequate in terms of their God-given equipment, as the heart and the mind have always been the most powerful sexual organs of all. However, with that being said, I have within my history had one that was TOO LARGE and another that was too small, but those names will happily go with me to my grave.