Avoiding Earthquakes in our Business Relationships

Have you ever felt blindsided by the actions of a co-worker?
In most cases, there were early warning signs – but we need to be tuned into them to avoid impending problems.
Actions or attitudes on our part can contribute to the negative situation.
As the saying goes – If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.

Cultivating winning relationships is all about being proactive – in your workplace and career!
The early warning signs that you may need to speak up, can include the following:

 

You are surprised by someone else’s action or inaction.


Your conscience is bugging you, and you know an apology or alternative action is necessary to come back from your own misstep.


You find yourself acting it out—drumming your fingers in frustration, rolling your eyes when certain individuals speak, approaching each interaction by taking an offensive position (fight) or defensive approach (flight).


You consistently complain to others about a colleague’s shortcomings rather than talk to the person directly.


Accountability for self and others disappears— “When they change then I will change.”


Assumptions are made about others’ intent or motives (usually negative assumptions). Blame and finger pointing is commonplace (rather than listening and constructive dialogue).


The focus becomes one of “winning at all costs” rather than finding a mutually acceptable solution.


Others are no longer being consulted in critical meetings or discussions.



Take a moment and consider the challenging business relationships you’re dealing with right now. Do you see any of the attitudes or behaviors in the list above?
Own them. You’ll avoid earthquakes, and start to see a path to move the relationship in a positive direction!