Are modesty teachings destroying actual modesty?

This is something that has been on my mind for years, and as I am starting to see the first modesty posts of Spring (so jealous of those who are already getting Spring weather!), I’ve decided it is time for me to share my thoughts on this. (Warning: this is long. And sometimes ranty.)

First, my story about modesty:

I joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints when I was 18 years old. (And much of my talk about modesty teaching centers around teachings in that church, though I know o...