When a Type-A/Dominant/Alpha Male meets a Type-A/Submissive/Southern Belle ..........

She said, "I get you, and who you are excites me, thrills me, overwhelms me and blows me away. Do you even begin to understand how fortunate I feel to have found you? In a world of over 7 billion people, somehow you and I made a connection; albeit long distance up to now, but a connection all the same, and it is real, and important, because it speaks to matters of fate and predestination as if against all odds we were somehow meant to be. Add to that equation the fact that we came together and then fell apart and came together again then it seems even more uniquely ordained."

As a Type A you are driven, never comfortable with the status quo and always seeking to peer beyond the horizon at what lies above the tree line. You are an extreme perfectionist, therefore intolerant of mediocrity. You are several steps ahead of most of your peers, and as a result you’re sometimes – maybe even often times accused of being abrupt or cutting people off mid-sentence – not because you are rude, but because you get what someone’s trying to say even before they get it out of their mouths and you’ve already moved on to the next. You want what is best for the world and more often than not you believe you have the answers, consequently you grow intolerant of those who simply ‘don’t get it’. You have an appreciation for finer things and suffer no guilt for providing yourself with your creature comforts, because you work hard and see these things as a rite of passage. Conversely you are generous of heart and spirit and still believe collectively we can make the world a better place.

As a Dominant you are the sun and the rest of the universe revolves around you and your whims. A natural born leader, you know what you want, and you’re capable of making it happen if people would only get out of your way. Others look to you for guidance and often flounder in your absence. You choose to surround yourself with those who appreciate your talents and don’t question your vision, and needless to say you don’t suffer fools very well. Others are often jealous of your attributes, but at the same time they respect you and secretly want to be you.

As an Alpha you lead the pride of lions. The survival of the entire group rests wholly upon you, and you wear the responsibility well and proud. You provide food, shelter and protection, and instinctively the dominant male must choose the most worthy mate ….. if not for procreation in this case ….. then one who will at least provide the necessary care and support to make certain her paramour wants for nothing in his quest to create a better world. An Alpha understands that winning isn’t the only thing, it’s everything. When challenged he will crush his opponents, therefore securing his place for posterity. The only potential pitfall for a Type A/Dominant/Alpha is that his light can burn so bright it can be blinding, diminishing those around him to the point they become fearful and lose their way.

Now with regard to me …. I’ve already covered Type A, and this is how we are alike, probably more alike than you know, but with regard to being a submissive, I can honestly say that like being hetero or gay, this is something I did not choose. It has absolutely nothing to do with my gender and much more to do with my genetic chemistry. Just as there is male and female, there is Dom and Sub, and each component is needed to compliment and complete the other. Although lines of power are clearly drawn, one cannot fully exist without the other, therefore they are equal partners within the relationship. When it’s right and good, I can’t imagine a better, stronger partnership. Loyal, loving and devoted ….. timeless by design.

Now a word about being a ‘Southern Woman’. Just as the Alpha feels a sense of entitlement at birth, then so does the southern belle. She is smart, cultured and resilient. In good times she is the consummate hostess, and her mate’s secret weapon. In bad times she is resourceful beyond imagination …. see Scarlet O’Hara ….. and above all else she is well-mannered and charming even in the face of ugliness. She can make a point with a raised eyebrow and a silent stare, and she can solicit a following with the sway of her hips or the tilt of her head. More than anything, she is aware of her own personal power, and as such she uses it wisely. She is a velvet hammer, so when she delivers a blow, one may not feel the impact until she’s already left the room, and she is a steel magnolia …. soft on the outside, but tough as steel when that is what life requires. In a nutshell, that’s who I am … all woman, and one who never wanted to be anything but a woman.

I like being pampered, primping up for my man, being a homebody, thinking of ways to show you how much I love you, having a door held open for me, holding hands in public, being possessed, and put up on a pedestal. But in turn we southern gals hold our man to the highest of all standards. In tudor days, we were the damsel in the grandstand that knights battled over in a duel in hopes of winning her heart, and only the best man won. We value ourselves and know our worth, which is why a Dom/sub relationship with a misogynist would never fly, because this type of man seeks to diminish his partner to the point she can no longer think or act for herself. I will never be that woman, but then you would never ask me to be .....